What is wrong with him?

[ajalia]

My husband was an alcoholic during our 3 years of marriage. He quit last November and to the best of my knowledge has not touched it since. The problem now is that he's consumed with fear that he'll die from dementia soon (he's 55),
he lies to me. It started last year before he quit, he went to adult websites, allegedly told female co-workers if they were of age to come over he'd do them, the last straw was 2.5 weeks ago- he grabbed my friends breast and asked her how she was doing. He refers to women he disfavors as ****** ect... The police were called out and I kicked him out.  I have noticed these past few months he shakes alot, calles people by other peoples names, during phone calls he asks how they are 2-3 times and seems to forget why he called. He's bossy , controlling and believes that everyone else has the problem!!!  He tells me he doen't know why he did what he did and realizes by not working for 9.5 months to get out of paying child support he only added to the pain he caused me and our marriage. He says he 's going to get a job  but makes excuses. We are all tired of this - what should we do?

[botchedup]

It sounds to me like with opioid w/d's and PAWS....Alcohol has it's own.  Don't they call it the DT's?  His doctor can prescribe him supportive meds for this condition.  Alcohol withdrawal unlike opioid w/d CAN be dangerous--the shakes, etc.  His blood pressure and pulse ox should be monitored for sometime and I hate to say this but if he has been "sober" for that long, the dt's should be subsiding.  Are you sure he's not doing some binge drinking when no one is watching??  Inform him that his doctor can give him an anti'd or anti anxiety med to help with this.  My brother in law was an alchoholic for 20 years, he had to be medically detoxed to avoid the same symptoms you describe here.  God bless and hang in there.  The liver function tests that came back "pickled" was what finally put him in the hospital.  B vitamins, salt and soda baths, amino acids, lysine, and vitamin e iu30(no more) should help with liver support and brain function.  As always hydration, and circulation will expediate the positive effects of any and all efforts.  

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

The classic medical response here is that people going into dementia do not realize that they are going into dementia. It does sound like there is a problem, though........

[road2recovery]

I am very sorry you are going through this...I have a uncle with dementia, and it is a terrible illness...What makes him think he has this??
But my uncle did the complete opposite...He was mean to his wife ( women in general)..Now he is just the sweetest...If i were you, i would keep a journal, and make an appt for a doctor to evaluated him....But remember that you need to take care of yourself also!!!!  Good luck!

[mcray]

This is terrible. What is even more terrible is that I treated my ex-gf similar to this for a while... Not as bad... Not nearly as bad, but I mean I would talk to girls behind her back and stuff... That relationship is over though.
Cathy, I don't know if you remember me, as I'm sure you talk to many people on here, but I just remember that you helped me a lot through all of my struggles. I have 7 months soon!

[ajalia]

Thank you , I appreciate your suggestions. He just refuses to try to better himself.
He is endangering not just himself but all those near to him. Thank you again...
my heart aches so deeply I can't stand this any longer.  I've watched him turn into someone I don't recognize.

[cathy5841]

i am sorry you are dealing with this, but i suggest he go see a doctor.  it sounds like something may be going on.  there is no one here quailified to help you with this i am afraid.  please take him to the doctor.