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[bettie1976]

Im not going to hijack jace's thread by getting into it with you. yes I read your post there and agreed with part of it. the part about you asking HIM why he has pain meds tho, I didnt agree with. Hes already explained why he has to take them. Im just sayin, he wanted his wife to read it and I put myself in her place, thinking of her reading all the posts later on and if I was still actively using, it would probably either hurt me or just plain **** me off. Yes she needs help, I KNOW THAT. We all do. But we dont know if she wants help. Its pretty simple beach and I dont wanna start anything with you. I was responding to a post by jace.

[lunachick]

awesome...except i wasn't arguing with you..nor have I ever argued with you..so take whichever road you would like cause i'm not going to stop giving my opinion regardless of how insecure it might make you...:)

[bettie1976]

I have NO CLUE. Thats why Im not giving advice about it anymore. his situation is outta control and I dont know it all and I wont pretend to.

[beachtowel]

fair or unfair is irrelevant in my opinion..........
Many things in life are not fair......but that doesnt mean that we still don't have to deal with them.....

by the way as far as you and I talking anymore I don't think is a good idea.......
med help asked me that if you started to argue with me for me to take the high road and step away........so that is what I'll do here.....

[beachtowel]

I know he is trying very hard and I don't doubt that he is in pain........

His wife is in big trouble and she needs him too.......
Addiction in families causes so much damage I know I caused so much at my parents house........

What do you think the husband should do about his wifes situation?
I am very curious..........

[lunachick]

my b/f had to do the same thing when i was taking 40 pills a day, and regardless of whether he was "the man of the house" it was unfair to him. Especially while he was suffering from chronic pain himself..

[bettie1976]

well then there you go. you were forced into recovery. I went by myself, FOR myself. Not because I was court ordered or because someone made me. Im glad you got forced into recovery and that youre still clean. I know a lot of people who are forced by a judge and dont ever get clean and I know its still a choice you have to make, even when youre court ordered but there is a difference here, do you see it? Jace's wife isnt being mandated to go to detox. We know you mean well but really, you cant force an addict to do anything. Unless its going down on someone for a hit.