family intervention

[oxygirl487]

As some of u read yesterday i was in alot of pain.so instead of getting a pill i took a valium and went to bed..and wouldn't my luck have it my mom and dad decided to drop by lastnight of all nights lol...my husband had told me he would take care of the kids so i could go to bed so i was asleep...my mom barges into my bedroom screaming "what is wrong with u ?everytime i talk to u or call your in bed" i was like "mom tonite is not a good night can we do this tommorrw?" of course that lead to us screaming at each other and my admitting that i had been addicted to pain pills for 4 yrs....that led her to calling me a drug addict and a sorry mother..told u she wouldnt understand lol...well anyway they left after threatening to put me in rehab even though i told her i had been clean for over 2 weeks....so my dad calls after they get home and she goes to bed....he tells me that about 8 yrs ago he himself had an addiction to pain pills and he told me he knew what i was going thru etc....gave me some encouraging advice(hes a preacher btw) made me feel alot better...said he was gonna tell my mom this morning about his past addiction so maybe she would know that no one is above this demon...maybe she will understand better because she and i cant talk without screaming at each other always been that way lol....just thoguth id tell u guys about that...and let u know i was strong and didnt get a pill....love u all .....god bless

[oxygirl487]

omg!!!! i hadnt thought of that...i have 2 girls 12 and 6 yrs old....i would go threu hell and high water if they became addicted to anything.....im sure my mom feels the same way sh just has a hard time showing it  lol.....but i have to understand that u truely dont understand addiction unless uve been there and she has not....i know she loves me i could c that last night in her eyes she s just in disbelief right now i guess....but calling me a sorry mother that was harsh to say the least...but to that i replied with a big ol f u..so im not any better....i plan on talking to her when my dad gets her to cool off and he will he has that effect on people   lol....thanks for the kind words...hope all is well for u...take care

[oxygirl487]

my dad said he went through this alone btw....he said he was taking 30-35 loratab a day...that must have ben pure hell....gives me hope....but he said his pain lasted almost a year....but with my dad,my husband,and u guys i can do this.....my dad is very sensitive and can make me cry on a dime lol....he said i could come to his house and crawl into his arms and he'd hold me all night long if needed....that i maybe 32 yrs old but im still his baby.....ok im crying now...i need to shut up lol

[1eagle]

I am so glad that you got the information that you did. I don't like the fact that dad was hooked sometime, but what a break for you. If anyone can make mom understand it should be him. i don't care much for forceful intervention or even rehab....but do whatever it takes. It sounds like all you should need is that good old dads support and the idea that those loving arms are there for you instread of the pills. I was at your pops level at one time and , yes, it was incredibly hard to ct. Stay strong and remember, that my thought would be that mom was surprised, and she was reacting to the whole situation and her madness was probably directed more at the pills than you.

[oxygirl487]

i agree with u i dont like the idea of forced rehab either....i was doing anywhere from 3-5 80mg oxy's so i know where your comming from....im lucky to be alive i know that now....yeah she was suprised....shes coming over later  she just callled  course she was crying   still mad also   so i guess i need to get out my boxing gloves and about 10 valium lol  just kidding about the valium....dad's comming too so he can referee   wish me luck  cause she can sure push my buttons....

[1eagle]

I would rather see you get out the valiums rather than the boxing gloves. I am a poly addict so everything is right up my alley!!! Just be careful cause those things can cause problems too. With dad on your side you already have a good leg up. I am happy for you in that respect. You can also think of me, with a 40 year habit that started with china white in Asia I didn't think that i could ever stop. But I've been clean for the longest time in my life it seems, about 2 1/2 months. i gotta go now, but I'll be back

[johnnykelly]

Hi my name is john, i was touched by your post. You are moving in the right direction,moreover your father got to share his experience,strength and hope with you.Thats great.My dad and myself where also close, as my mother died of cancer when i was 6yrs old.My father pasted away 3yrs ago,he was a good man annd like your mother,he would not hear any wrong that i could do.To a large degree he enabled me, as i am an only child.Your mom seems hard on the outside, and soft on the inside.I believe see will come around,as you and her both got heated and especially after your dad shares with her his addiction and recovery. Hang in there your friend in recovery john