how to help someone you love?????

[hartmens_gurl]

HI I AM A CONCERNED FIANCE . WHO WANTS TO PREVENT MY BOYFRIEND FROM FALLING BACK INTO THE HABBIT.HE QUIT ABOUT 8 MONTHS AGO. AND IS DOING OK, BUT SOME TIMES I SEE THE ERGE,AND THAT SPARK TO DRINK AGIN , AND IM SUPER SCARED BECUSE , I LOVE HIM ,AND WOULD NEVER WANT T SEE HIM LIKE THAT EVER AGIN. PLZ HELP.

[amzy22]

there's nothing worse than seeing a loved one hurting themselves like that. u cant just physically take charge of the situation, or force her to stop...but u can make sure that you are there for her, and tell and remind her that you will always be there for her! and it was very smart to lock up any medications in ur house, and other family member's should too if she might be there at any time. its sad because once a person is over the age of 18, you cant force them into any type of drug rehabilitation program...as far as i know...they have to do it on their own. my best advice to you is just to be there for her. ive been through the whole prescription drug thing and if it wasn't for my family, i may not be here today.

best of luck to you and your family!

[anna365]

My 31 yr old sister in law has a prescription drug problem. She takes xanax's and she went into my darvocet pill bottle stole the whole bottle, stole her fathers depakotes. She sleeps almost all day. She walks around like a zombie when she is awake. I have locked my medicines up so she has no access. She is mixing pills, and knocking herself out for the night. I am very worried for her. We have tried talking to her about this problem before. Since then she has reverted to stealing our meds.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Does he have new interests? There are many excellent resources here. I reccomend the book "Seven Weeks to Sobriety" Even though he has been clean much longer. This book explains why you need HUGE amounts of vitamins and supplements! The alcoholics' digestive system has been destroyed. The huge, frequent amounts are so the body will get enough to start repairing itself. They are several different formulas for different types of mood problems, too. Like anger, depression, etc.. It helps you to tailor the doses to help the specific person's problems.
Has he seen this forum or the alcholic one? Huge help here. It is nice to know that you are not the only one with the same problem. It might help him
Good Luck.

[LIZZIE LOU]

i am just wondering if he is doing anything to "help" himself stay sober...ie. AA.  has he changed anything about his life or is he still doing exactly the same things as he was before?