Listen to WW. She's got it together and will really help you thru this. She's been very kind to me. I owe her a special thank you for her patience and kindness. She's been kind of like the eye of a hurricane to me. With all the turbulance going on, you just go to the eye of the storm. And you see sunshine and it's very calm there. I agree with her. It's do-able. I'll be here for you also. I'm just figuring out that alot of times when I didn't feel good. I may have been going thru withdrawal. So I understand. Shotsy
Hi Starling,
Let me just start by saying you can do this.
I say those words to you because those were the most important words someone here said to me when I decided to go cold turkey. I needed to hear them, and I just let go and surrendered and trusted that yes, I could do this. If I could, so can you.
Next, please feel free to write me. Email support was part of what got me through my withdrawal. Write me at ***@****. Also, post here, as often as you want or need to.
Next....if you really have no option other than to stay home and take care of your baby while in withdrawals, I'll give you some advice, but I do wish you had the ability to taper or get rehab somewhere. But given your situation...
In withdrawal, we are extremely uncomfortable, but still able to function. I hardly slept, so being available and awake to take care of your baby won't be as big a problem as you may think it is. I was way more alert than I wanted to be, trust me.
It helps to have a task to perform to distract you, and maybe taking care of her will be that task.
Thomas's recipe helps a lot, do take the immodium, and you won't have diarhea to battle. Do take the multimineral supplements, and low doses of 5 HTP. Drink tons of water, and soak in hot baths whenever you can. Breathe deeply. Watch escapist movies when your baby is sleeping. Go for walks with her in the stroller if you can..I went for walks ever day of my withdrawal and it helped tons. If you can possibly see an acupuncturist, please please do, and tell them you are in withdrawals..there is a lot they can do to speed up the body's own endorphin production and stop the creepy crawlies.
You will sweat a lot, get the chills, get skin tingles, and feel very restless. I never got the shakes, but some folks do.
But you can do this.
Also starling, and maybe most important...please, please be gentle with yourself. Love yourself through this. I am worried about the harsh tone you took with yourself in your post, like you've brought this upon yourself and you deserve to be punished.
You have succumbed to addiction, like many fine people before you. Like me, and Skipper, and everyone else here. You deserve love and compassion just like anyone else...and it is LOVE that heals the shame of this disease. Please make a commitment to love yourself through this withdrawal. Love will help you get through. You are not a horrible person. You are a normal human being. And frankly, I've found more wonderful human beings among my addict friends than almost anywhere. You are in good company, and we will love you until you can love yourself.
So..reach out. I am here. We are here. You can do this.
love,
WW
Shotsy,
Yes, I have to quit cold. My doctor has not approved a refill and I've only got one vicodin pill left. The way my health care provider works it would be at least two days before I could even get any more pills to taper with, and by that time I'll have already been in withdrawal for nearly 48 hours. There'd be no sense in turning back then. My husband is only home two hours per night of my daughter's waking hours which is not nearly enough to help me take care of her. And I already know that he would not, and cannot, take time off of work in order to give me extra help. He also doesn't know anyone at all who could help me during the day.
I'm in a real mess. I could just kill myself! :(
"starling"
Do you absolutely have to quit cold? Are you not able to extend a taper period until you can get some asistance? What about daddy? Let me know. Shotsy
Skip,
I only just printed out the recipe this morning, so I need to go get the stuff today.
I really don't care so much about myself and the hell I'm going to have to go through. I deserve it. Every last minute of it.
What I am very, very concerned about is how to care for my infant while going through the withdrawals. If I'm laid up and can't function, how in the world am I going to be able to care for her?
It's very hard to stay calm when you have a beautiful little baby staring you in the face, and you're so frightened that you will become useless to her, and that something might happen to her... and she cannot take care of herself in any way, shape, or form.
I'm at my wit's end! What in the world am I going to do???
"starling"
Starling:
so now it's time to pay up? well first of all lets try to stay
calm. ok have you assembled the items for Thomas's detox. if
not get what you need befoe the withdrawal really kicks in. just
remember opiate withdrawal will not kill you, you may wish to
die, but it will not kill you. also remember that though you are
alone, there are many helpful people at this site to offer help
and suggestions.
gods speed and keep an angel on your shoulder!
kip