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[susanlea]

Ok guys I need your help on this one! Most of you now of my ex's addiction to oxy's and now on uncontrolled amounts of methadone. My question is, can these pain killers affect your memory? He thinks he's been giving me over $3500 a month for the past 2 years. Number 1 he wasn't living with me 2 years ago. Number 2 he doesn't make that much, plus has child support of over $1200 a month. I figured out the average he gave me while living here was around $600 a month, plus when he was off work for 3 months because of his addiction, I paid his bills and child support, plus the house, car insurance and everything else. He says we were only together 2 years, we were together almost 6 years! He swears he's given me presents he never gave me.  I really don't know what to make of all this, he's telling me again, his addiction had nothing to do with our problems, that it was all my fault. Gosh, this is getting weirder all the time, he called me the other night asking me to get somethings for him to wire some intakes at his parents house. He already has all this stuff, he moved it to his parents house 6 months ago. I asked him if he wanted to talk to me, he said he had to think about it. He'll  call, but not talk, nothing specific. Came by the other day, said he wanted to see the dog, and just hung around. Am I the one losing it here!? Or have all the drugs over the past 25 years affected the way he thinks? Thanks guys, I really don't understand where he's coming from.....Love Susan

[cindi]

you go girl...you can do this....it has been awhile....and hon, i do understand how you feel  it is so hard to just walk away but for you and the kids you have to do this...i have 3 e mail accts..you can get me at ***@****, ***@**** or my aol ***@****  a little obsessive LOl     love you   cin

[susanlea]

You guys are so great!  I know you all are right, I sound like the lonely, helpless victim.  I don't mean to, honest.  I took the advice, I've spent the better part of the day packing things up, but I haven't even put a dent in it.  There is so much of his things here, clothes, furniture, boxes, and boxes of stuff. I've moved some to the garage, and alot into another room.  It would take a large U-Haul to move this.  I will get it all done, and tell him to come get it out at one time.  I realized he still has a key to the house, so tomorrow I'm changing the locks. It's been 3 months today, it's time to move on.  He made his decission to leave without getting help. Now he can stay gone.  I will not wait for him anymore.  I guess I was fooling myself in believing if he was gone long enough he would realize what he's done and get help.  Not going to happen anytime soon.  I talked with my sponser today, we went over the point of hitting rock bottom.  He will never hit his untill I'm nolonger there for his convience, and his parents get wise and kick him out.  You guys have been so kind to me, I don't want to run all this garbage on you.  Thanks for everything.....Love Susan

[cindi]

Kerrie   first of all I gave you a face as well,   ok ready?  you are a redhead..not too bright though and green eyes...fair skinned and freckels like a true redhead..LOL   you are absolutely beautiful.....actually, I really don't give a hoot what anyone here looks like but it is easier for me to type when I have a face in my head....so, i said it once and I'll say it again  I can be a real dork sometimes..and lea....sometimes, no all the time I wish i could say things more like Thomas...he is soooooooo  right...hon, you are ruining your life and i know in my heart you are well aware of this....you can do so much better than this....you can live without him....you and I both know it....he is just like a worn out pair of slippers for you..time for you to get your life together and in time get a new pair....I have been with men that are no good for me..they have dragged me down and it took a 30 day stay in treatment to see that I really did not love him and a good man (my husband) to teach me what love is...I had no clue what real love was,,,I had to learn when I met doug....this is no lie, I truly felt love was insecurity, possessiveness, distrust, lies, manipulation and of course sex...i found out quite the opposite when I met my Doug...the insecurity was gone, i trust him and he trusts me,  and the only lie he has ever told me was the time he hid a new stereo system for his car from me....and he is the first man I have really ever "MADE LOVE" with...I know yo will get there   take time, ship his **** out and live your life,,,take control again   you can do it...this is your obsession as his are drugs....your addiction and you can get your life back,,,,,,good luck sweety      love to you and all   cin

[Thomas]

lea,

you're scaring me now ... you're sounding like the typical lonely victim woman trying to convince herself to get together again with this absolute *******. What words can I use? PARASITE? LOSER? Please do what I sugggested ... pack up his stuff and have it shipped to his parent's house. Then he doesn't have any reason to come over, does he?

Or, maybe you haven't had enough punishment yet. Maybe you need to have what's left of your life totaly destroyed by this non-entity.

Lea, please see a psychologist now. You're trying to talk yourself into this same horror show you just got out of. For the love of God -- WAKE UP!
PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO SAY, BECAUSE i'M FRESH OUT OF IDEAS.

Don't you want a good life? A good man who loves you?

Please tell me what to say to wake you up. We shouldn't even be hearing about him anymore ....

Love,

Your Distressed Friend,

Thomas

[Kerrie]

Hi Milo,
    I thought since I had a good laugh the other night I would share with you all.
    My husband had a virus this week and was hospitalized for it,thinking it might be his appendix. That's not the funny part.
He got up during the night to get some phenegran for his nausea. Later I got sick and needed some phenegran and he went to get it for me. He couldn't find it. I asked him did he put it back in the same place. He just looked at me strange. I asked him what was wrong. He said he took my lasix by mistake. They looked like them he said. He took 80 mg. of lasix. I laughed untill I was in pain. He was up all night peeing. Everytime he got up to pee I laughed my head off. I'm glad he didn't take something that would hurt him. But that taught him a lesson. He will never take another pill without reading the label. But it sure was funny this time. But he's fine now. Although he didn't see the humor I did.
    Talk to you later.
          God Bless,
            Kerrie

[Milo]

"He didn't see the humor but I did." If laughter is the best medicine, I should be in good shape right now! Thanks for a good start to this Saturday morninng! -- Milo