this sounds so much like me and my ex wife. after 25 years of marrigage she did the same thing. she had left in the past 4 times for drugs,4 times she came back,4 times i allowed it. it hurts, and all these people will tell you to move on etc. thats the hard part, the moving on. i left my ex back in my life too much, the last time she ran off with a man and is getting married to him next week, and know what, im the bad guy, i am the one who gets the vile, even though i opened my home to her, helped and supported her for 3 years while rehabbing........it dont work hun, it changes them, they are never the same afterwards. remember the good times, and even though you focus on the bad,let the good surface. this is what helped me, set a date........one year from today, circle it, dont look back and work on you,give it that year and then look at things, when he comes around or says he doesnt know he is holding you in case........you dont have to get divorced, just take that year for you, when he comes around like at the park he is doing one of two things, he is seeking pleasure,or he is seeking to get away from displeasure, thats a broad statement but it does fall in that somewhere, i will pray for you, Jim
Hi Kirsten....I know how hard this must have been for you but you really did do the right thing. He is not himself, the pull of the drugs is so much stronger than anything else to an addict...even family! He is sick but he is the only one that can make that decision to get help. You have supported him in every way you possibly could and now you have come to the very difficult but best decision for you and your precious child! I will pray for you that he will realize in the very near future what he has done to his life and try to get the help he needs. Time will tell, but you need to be strong, stick to your guns, and keep you and your child safe at all costs! Be proud of yourself for doing the best thing for you but never lose hope! Please keep us posted on your situation!
Peace,
Marcie
He will come around, but he will only come around when he is clean. Just hang in there, do not let him see your daughter until he agrees to get help. Tell him you dont want to put he in any danger. Once he realizes that he is losing not only you and his family, but his daughter too, maybe a light will go off. But again, he is not the person you married. He is acting like the demon stuck inside him. He needs help, but has to want it first. Good luck to you...keep us posted...
Lisa