zyban side effects

[rameses]

Is zyban known to cause temporary impotence or erectile dysfunction? I've been on zyban for 4 weeks now and in the last 3 or 4 days i've had trouble with my sex life. Can you help?

[Shea]

jbear,

I can relate to your loss of your best friend. My best friend of 28 years and I parted ways a couple years ago. I was devastated. What had happen is we both lived on the West coast. we were inseparatable all through junior high, high school and after. I moved to the East coast and although we didn't see each other all the time I flew out once a year for a few weeks. the distance didn't hinder our friendship. One year her and her husband flew out to visit and it was the trip from hell. She was way out of line. Obnoxious, fighting for the center of attention etc. anyhow, she ended up leaving two days early to go home. I was so upset and felt I failed as a hostess. Later I found out she was abusing pain pills plus a lot of other issues. It has been a few years and we have just started talking. it is hard to repair a friendship 3,000 miles away via telephone. I also had a very dear friend here where I live whom I have parted ways with.  This has also caused me a lot of grief. But the thing I have learned is...sometimes these friends are gone forever. Sometimes they return. Sometimes we find the relationship might not ever be the same but with new boundaries and guideline there can someday be a relationship. Either way it is very painful. And I guess that is how you weigh their importance while in your life by the void it leaves when the relationship has split. I also found this one more reason to numb myself with pills. I know it is a great loss. My heart goes out to you.

Shea

[cindi]

Hey there,,,,jules,  I need your email again....lost it   thanks,,,,now,,,about losing friends....friends come and friends go...but true friends I mean true friends are there,,through thick and thin......I have a 2 friends I speak with maybe 1 or 2 times a year,,,,,,but,,,when there is a crisis, they are always there for me or vice versa,,,,,I lost my best frind last christmas,,,,,she was there for me through everything, she never judged me, told me the truth about everything, defended me held me, fought for me...she was my mom,,,since then I will never have a friend such as her.....friends that desert us in our time of need are not really friends.....if they suspect you use drus they should offer their support and leave it at that,,,not leave you.....they should not judge you, or expect anything from you in return....that is what is so nice about this forum....we have no faces here and we expect nothing in return but yet I feel as though you all are my friends.....we stick with each other, support, love, care and show genuine concern....I am not saying this forum should take the place of real live flesh but the form this forum takes is real firendship one that should be like that in the flesh.......love to all   cin

[susanlea]

I am sorry about your friend.  But sometimes we need to do things for our sanity.  One of my very best friends for about 25yrs and I had to go our separate ways.  My ex of about 6 months was an addict in the worst way.  He had to leave otherwise it would have destroyed my family.  I had been going through hell these last 6 months.  My girlfriends boyfriend is also an addict, pills, alcohol, soma's, crack, everything.  He begged me to help him, this was 2 months ago.  I busted my rear getting one of my Dr's to admit him to the hospital for detox and rehab.  He came out a week later and quickly relapsed.  I drove around for 5 hours to meetings, friends in NA and AA to get him help and sponsers.  For 2 days I dragged my kids around to help them.  I ask her to do me a favor,  she could not do it because she had to babysit him.  I told her I could not have my boys around him when he was using and that I couldn't watch her enable him any longer.  She was doling out pills, pot and alcohol to him, saying she could control his addiction now.  I blew up, and I told her I could no longer be friends with her, it was not survival for my children and me.  She got mad hung up the phone and thats that.  I don't miss all that insanity.  I felt bad like you for about a week.  Sometimes I miss her.  But I do not miss all that craziness.  Life is now normal.  If breaking the bonds is pro survival for you than you have done the right thing.  I don't know why you two broke up.  But if the relationship was causing more pain than pleasure something was wrong.  Love and friendship should not hurt.  Nothing good should hurt.  Be strong my friend.  Life always has a way of working out.  God Bless and keep you at peace....love  Susan

[susanlea]

sorry I meant my ex of almost 6 years.

[Milo]

I know how painful the end of a friendship can be. I have had dear, close friends drop out of my life without a word (not related to drug use in any way, in fact several times before I ever even thought of using drugs). Words cannot explain the pain. Did I do something wrong? What? Was there something going on in that person's life that had nothing to do with me? For God's sake, tell me, don't leave me wondering forever (to this day, 10 years later, I wonder what happened with a friend who was like a sibling to me.) Later I did have several close friends remove themselves from my life and heart because of my drug use (which in reality was mostly depression.) I understand and respect what Lea is saying, but I can't agree with it in all cases. The rejection I felt made me want to use more drugs, not less. I have a best friend who has done some thinngs I don't "approve of" (including drugs, but other stuff also), but I wil stand by this person until the end of our lives. Please, nobody be angry with me -- I'm not speaking of all situations, only mine. The last thing I needed was to be rejected because I "might" be using drugs. I needed to be held close and loved. -- Milo

[jule1]

Again I am sorry to break in on this thread but I wanted to thank you all for helping me once more.  I have just felt like crying all week besides all this horrible devastation that happened so close to my home I am going through some other problems that sort of seem trivial but hurt.  One of them is losing a best friend I have had for 15 years (that sounds like I lost her to death but that is not the case) we have   gone separate ways and I have had nights awake just feeling so bad.  Have any of you ever had to break up with a friend?  Do you have any advice?  This is also a wierd thing I am almost completely away from the pills but when I think of life without them as happy as i am I also feel like I am losing another friend this one doesn't send me b-day cards but has spent more nights with me than my husband LOL.  OK time for bed you are all the best!!!!!!!!!!! I could have never come this far without you all.