Re: social situations; what to do?

[dark69meat]

Since I'm on the road tor recovery and drinking doesn't appear to be an option; what are your views regarding social situations where alcohol is served?  Basically I'm very weak if everyone is looped having a good time and of course I'll want to jump in on the fun.  Since I'm new to the whole sober scene, I really fear how to act or what to say.  I mean, I don't want to stay home all my life, but believe this will be my biggest challenge.  I can get caught up in the excitement quite easily which could be very depressing in the aftermath.

[uberadtx]

Congratulations on 21 days!  Imagine that!  I'm so glad you are passing up on your work party.  I admire your healthy fear, some people don't have that.  When I was first sober, I was petrified of all things normal.  I was starting to find out what my triggers were and I couldn't believe it.  I was an equal opportunity drinker, that is I drank because I was happy and I drank because I was upset. I knew no boundaries when it came to alcohol.  I suddenly realized that I didn't want to be on my knees in the middle of the day in some shopping center parking lot in tears.  That was my last drunk.  Classy right?  So what is your reward for all your hard work?  You need to nourish your spirit with something fun. You should plan on treating yourself.  I love movies and books and video games.  silly right?  But it lets my inner child come out and play. I hope you let your child come out and celebrate with you its soo important.  

[ibizan]

trust ur intuition..it is telling u to not attend for a reason.no need 2 place self in situations ur anxious about...uncertain..uncomfortable.No need a'tall!day 21 is sober fun!yeehah!

[dark69meat]

Day 21 clean, I don't want to to places where alcohol is served.  I'm doing so well and don't want to blow it.

[ibizan]

its a play it by ear situation by situation.....ur being wise......work party's can be real trips...people can and do usually make donkeys butts of themselves!r they having a dinner?i usually go for the food if its good.good friend of mine used to have big xmas party.Major foodfest potluck..it was divine! i went for the eating,then when it was done...all the boozers would start...and i went home!these people would come toasted,drunk...skinny bloodshot eyes..u know...not eat a thing!sure sign there!i don't have many alcohol sits to deal with anymore after 23 yrs.sober....have developed friends who don't drink or if so so rare!

[dark69meat]

* work party

[dark69meat]

Still going strong for day 20; think I'll pass on the work part this week.  Yes, we all have choices, but it might be still hard to say no at this point and don't want slip-up this early.  I've come too far and don't want to get depressed with the hypothetical of failing.

I'll mingle later,,, not sure when yet.