We recently adopted an Abbysinian cat and she's very fussy about her paws. Love her because she doesn't use her claws at all when playing (a weird Abby trait) but can't stand to have her paws touched. We bundle her in a bath towel - hubby holds her while I pull out a paw and clip. We only do this once a month. Plus we give her a kitty treat when we're done. She growls and grumbles but gets over it quickly enough. We're hoping in time she'll be more accepting of this little pedicure business.
If you don't want to have your cat nails cut at the vets than request a tranquilizer from your vet specifically for your cat. Don't give your cat anything over the counter. The doses of over the counter medications are so tiny that it is very easy to over dose cat's.
So...this is the second cat you are having with the "Pet Cemetary" behaviors?