Help!

[Jubby18]

When I posted this earlier, I got a few rude comments and I'm truly just asking for help. I've been beating myself about this for the last few days and I don't know what to do. I'm constantly crying every night feeling BEYOND guilty because I'm confused as to who the father of my child is. I truly just need help and I want to know if anyone can at least help me with determining between what days I had sex on that ultimately led to conception. Okay, So I am 18wks and 2 days pregnant as of today. (Oct. 10, 2013; so my Doctor says anyway.) If I go by what my doctor says, that would mean that my LMP was on June 4th, but my LMP was June 2. My boyfriend and I broke up because I found out that he was cheating on me on the 6th & I had sex with another guy June 10th. I didn't feel right doing it with the other guy, so I winded up stopping him while we were doing "it" (and yes, I do know there's such a thing as pre-***.) , but the day after, my boyfriend and I got back together and we had sex on the 11th and periodically through the 25th and I believe he could've slipped up a couple of times and actually ejaculated inside of me before actually pulling out, but Im not sure. Can anyone help me with figuring out if the baby might be for the other guy or not? Because I'm going crazy over here and I really feel horrible about myself.

[Sara780]

My period is 3 days late. I toke a pregnancy test came back nagivite . So if am not pregnant why is my period late ? Any advice thanks!

[Maymomma14]

Remember sperm can live for 5 days.  unfortunately, the only way to be 100% sure is a paternity test.  I know waiting is heart breaking, but it's the safest way to do it.  
Talk to your boy friend about your feelings.  See a therapist if you can,  learn some relaxation techniques.  Remember this is already done and crying can't change it now.  
Someone could do the math and give you an answer, but you can't be sure until you get tested.
Also sometimes talking about the what if's with a supportive friends or family member may help you prepare for beat and worst situations.  Which there was a definite answer, but there just isn't.  

[independent93]

It's okay don't be a yourself up every body makes mistakes...

[Cathleen Zoretic, RN]

Thanks for using the forum.

First, don't be upset by rude comments. They have no place in the forums where people are honestly looking for help and advice.

Now, on to your question. I am sorry, but I can't tell you with any certainty who the father of your baby is. What I can tell you is that conception occurs when the sperm and egg meet within 12-24 hours of ovulation. Ovulation usually occurs at around the mid-point in a woman's cycle. An average cycle is 28 days so that would make ovulation at around the 14th day. If your cycle is usually longer or shorter, take that in to account. Sperm can survive up to 3 days after ejaculation. Using this information, a woman is most likely to get pregnant if she has sex during day 12-17 of her cycle. It is important to know that everyone is different and these are approximate dates. The only way to be 100% sure would be a DNA test.

I hope this helps!

Cathy

[pcos_ttcmiracle]

Dont beat urself up these things happen I would either grt dna test or just wait till the baby is born and see who it looks like...