Boyfriend or son.

[Harrieth]

I have a 5 year old son and I have a boyfriend of 2 years now.My boyfriend and I has 25 years age gap but still I love him,we get along well but we also argue.My problem here is that  my son now is leaving with my parents because my boyfriend doesn't want my son to live with us the only thing he allows is for me to see him.If I tell my boyfriend that I want to leave with my son he says he will not want to be with me anymore because he doesn't want me to focus my attention with my son,he said he gets jealous and angry.
What should I do?should I live my bf to be with my son?am I selfish?

[DevotedPharmTech]

late but ...

wow

[cmariequev31]

Seriously not to be mean but how could you even ask this, there is no way I would be with anyone who is so immature and selfish. Your child deserves your devotion, love and attention regardless of what any man says or does. Now leave him immediately. That is heartbreaking to hear that you let your son leave? Unbelievable.

[TMI72]

the fact that you even have to ask this question speaks volumes.  you only have ONE son.  there are plenty of men out there.  and if not, who cares.  your son needs you.  period.  get rid of the BF for even making a statement like that.  omg, i can't even believe you have to ask this.  maybe your son belongs with your parents.  he needs someone who is not selfish to take care of him.  i really don't understand people who are afraid to be alone.  i don't get it.  a man is not the end of the world.  get your priorities straight and do what is right.  

[allmymarbles]

The problem would appear to lie with you and not the boyfriend.

[specialmom]

And any grown man that says they are jealous of a woman's child is really seriously troubled.  I also would suggest some therapy for you because I can't figure out how you'd be the least bit enticed by this type of man child.  good luck

[specialmom]

Let me just tell you that I'd ditch a man so fast if he ever even hinted at my abandoning my child.  That is one of the most horrible things I've ever heard.  Your child should and does always come first over any boyfriend.  Any type of threat like that is really wrong.  PLEASE leave your boyfriend and understand that any man you should be with is one who will support you as a parent.  As after all, you ARE  a parent.  

I find your boyfriend disgusting and hope you do too.  And that age gap is one that is often problematic.  I've got friends who tried this and found that their boyfriends pretty quickly just seemed 'old' and their interests changed and they grew apart.  YOU CAN DO BETTER.

[JacobEliot]

To me I think your boyfriend is a full of it not wanting you to take care of your son I say leave him if your son grows up knowing you picked your boyfriend over him he would be very sad and possibly angry people who were adopted may feel that way because thier mother gave them up and they don't want to see their biological parents due to that fact what you have with your son is precious leave your boyfriend

[Julieann35]

You are a mother your son never picked you for a mother and it is your job to do for him everything he needs it is not your parents job because they never asked for another child however they do it because they have unconditional love for him.  You need to look at the relationship with your boyfriend if he doesn't want you to take care of your son he is too selfish for you and your situation.  He should have more compassion for you and your son.  Who is more important to you?  If you could never see one of them ever again who would you pick?  You need to look at your priorities. A boyfriend who acts like a child or a child who has unconditional love for you?  Sorry for the honesty, but someone needs to give you the truth so u can make the right decision.
Julie