my father has the problem

[kaylanfallaw]

hi there i am 18 year old student and my father is dying but he is having problems with his back
pain is it because he is dying or is it because he is old i need to know i am confused

[kaylanfallaw]

thank you for your advice it really means a lot to me

[kaylanfallaw]

he is not suffering like he was last year he was hit by a car  and i was a little girl i was about 10
years old.... and since then he has been hurting more and more everyday i dont know what i am going to do if he goes to prison this wednesday he goes to court and finds out i am going to be here
i know it is not going to be good if everything changes

[dgri]

The only situation worse than a child watching a parent die, is when it is the other way around.  My heart goes out to you K.
  I assume you are not alone at such an awful time, is mom or an Aunt there?  Is your Dad in the hospital?  Why is he dying?  Is he at home?
  As Lisa said, pain is caused by a number of reasons.  But in this situation he should not be allowed to have horrible pain.  Whether in the hospital or at home, there is "Hospice Care" available to him and his family.  Tell who ever is the main medical care taker for your Dad that you want Hospice Care. That would be a doctor, nurse or social worker you ask.  Hospice workers help those dying and their families through the process, all the way through. They are highly skilled at making sure the patient is as pain free as possible and that "you" the family knows exactly what is happening and why.  This is in the home and the hospital, even nursing homes.  I don't know your whole situation, and as far as money goes, Hospice is at no cost to you. They are true miracle workers at such a time when you need it most.  If you would like to learn more, you can find information on the web. Just ask, and do it soon, for your Dad should not have to suffer.  Hospice is everywhere.
  Stay Strong.
  dgri

[kaylanfallaw]

yea i understand my father's condition but yea it soemthing i have to live with everyday
i watch him and it tears me apart and i am sorry to hear about you friend that is dyin

[kaylanfallaw]

he is 41 but i know it has something to do with the simple fact he got hit by a car
when i was 10

[Lisa500]

Hi,
sorry to here about your dad, i know you must be confused. How old is your dad? He may have back pain for a number of reasons. I have had back pain since i was 17 years of age. it may be nothing to do with his age or illness. Try to keep your chin up ,do you have someone you can ask questions to. Do you know and understand your dads condition. I have a friend who is also dying its so hard but keep up a brave face for your dad!  

Lisa500