Hi all i really need advice.

[nutz19]

I apologise if I upset anyone, this is not my intention.

Theres a lot of back story but trying to break this story down, my partners mum (K) has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and a borderline personality disorder. The problem is, and its big, is that the whole family have been torn, literally apart. K has turned to alcohol and has been sectioned on a ward, has now caused criminal damage and attacked people, has started cutting herself and has taken numerous over doses.

I need advice on how to help, my partner is autistic and is struggling to deal with the whole situation. I just don't know how to help.

Thank you

[nutz19]

Thank you, it's been so rough on the whole family. Thank you for the advice

[weaver71]

I remember feeling totally nutz, and my wife kept trying to help and talk to me about what was going on. I remember saying, "Just be happy, do your thing, that is the best thing you can do for me." I felt horrible sucking people into my insanity, them trying to focus on me made it worse. I just wanted my family to be happy, in spite of me. By seeing them live and do things, not affected by me, is what gave me an idea of what I was aiming for. They were affected, but they tried not to be, at my request. It's confusing to be in an altered state of mind. Whatever is said to me gets turned around and around and turned into something else, until I calm down Try out the above suggested groups, focus on being at peace, give him an example of how it CAN be. Let him know of resources you discover, but don't harp on it. Good luck.

[nutz19]

Thank you x

[CRSeaside]

There's a support group for Family & Friends. It's thru NAMI & DBSA.
  There's web sites to check time & place in your area.
     You can really learn from other people dealing with similar issues.