Just in case you don't know my story: My husband of 12 years (amazing , honest, Beautiful man!) 8 months ago at age 44 was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. Had a Major Manic Episode in August, tried to commit suicide, and what extremely Psychotic/Paranoid pretty much for all these months, with symptoms only getting better in the past 2 months....
Allow me to tell you what we went through so I can maybe ask for your words of wisdom....
W hen he was Manic I , in his mind, everything was wrong with our relationship and he aside from all the horrible things he would tell me he would say I was the reason he tried to kill himself.
He moved out of the house, told all our friends horrible things about me. Then started hanging out with this old female friend, who, to make things worse, has Borderline Personality Disorder...and 'used' him 'manipulated' him since he was in such fragile state of mind...
He even brought me to Court (only to dismiss it 2 months later) to get custody of our daughter alleging that I hit her!
During these 8 months his family and my family have been extremely supportive, his father came to stay with us in the house for 6 months. We were all trying to be strong and give him the love and care he deserved it...though he didn't/and still doesn't want to talk to us about his illness or ask for our 'help' , but Love for him has always been there during these 7 months!
So here is where we're at right now. Last month he decided to stop taking his medication on his own (Depakote 2000mg / Risperdal 1mg).,,,but he is still going to therapy.
Aside from stopping the medication and that being a huge 'blow' to the who,le family, so far he is at least 'stable' no major ups or downs!
And here is where I need somebody who has gone through this before to try to tell me from personal experience what it feels like to go through a major Episode and then recovery...
Everyone that knows my husband and I and have seen us together during 12 years of marriage know that we were a pretty happy, stable couple with a pretty Healthy, loving life....So many times during these 12 years I would thank God for giving me such an amazing, respectful husband!
But I feel I have lost my husband to this Illness. Though now he looks better and not agressive towards me. I feel he has absolutely no LOVE at all for me anymore. It's almost as if the Illness has KILLED any feelings he had for me!
When he was Manic he told me he was leaving me....then now he still thinks our relationship is no Good! And as we move towards separating, he is looking for a place to move. I need to find answers to try to heal from something that I can't even comprehend....How has the amazing, loving, caring husband that I had disappeared all of a sudden (literally, a month before his Manic Episode, we were fine! .Talking about a second baby, planning our next trip etc...) .
Has this happened to any of you?
Is he so confused he can't see that he is throwing away the best thing he has in life-his family!
Or is he aware of what he is doing, but too embarrassed of all the things that he has done and said (even having an affair with another woman) and now it's very hard for him to 'go back' to our normal lives?
PLEASE ANYONE...I just need to start accepting that i lost my husband and it would help to have any insight into the mind of somebody who is going through what he is going through --- I just can't believe he doesn't love me anymore!!! It's too painful !!!!