Did you lie and steal at this age too? She has taken that up as well. I think she may have some sensory issues that I am going to talk to her dr about. I think most her messes are due to sensory seeking. As far as low confidence, my son is the same way, but it is due to him having autism and the school is well aware of it for him. They are also aware of this for my daughter. They said it could be due to her having speech problems.
I remember doing all those things... Under 10, wetting pants and making excuses. leaving all my stuff dirty and all over the place. My mom always ruining my fun and forcing me to be responsible. "CLEEN UP YOUR CLOTHES!" Crayons on the fridge. I found a slingshot so I hunted pigeons (I only hit one then I felt bad) Sliding on my belly down a mud hill and my mom hosed me off before I could come in. (I was freezing!) Smashed my ghetto blaster to see what was inside. I always wanted to act like adults, hang aroun them, be like them, and do all the things they got to do. Now, Im only 20, but judging by myself and most of my friends. That sounds like a fairly basic childhood
Thank you for posting. I do praise her a lot. Maybe she needs more? I have an older son who is on the autism spectrum and he was so much easier (still is). I really don't know what typical is, but I do know that all kids, whether they have special needs or not, are different. It's almost like I am a first time parent again with her.
good book to read SOS help for Parents by Lynn Clarke..this sounds like a child/parent interaction problem ,the book will help you, you sound too hard on your daughter focus on her positive side and praise her when you see her doing something right, wanting to paint and make a mess is what children do, put lots of paper down and supervise ...good Luck