6 year old granddaughter crying in school everyday

[bsingletary]

I do know that most likely at the age of 6, the tantrums and crying should have stopped. This seems to happen at school everyday. She cries and screams for anything. It's to the point that she will not stop. She has been punished. She had her toys taken away, no TV. Nothing works. I even talked with her and she will say yes Grandma I'm going to go to school and be good. Several hours later she is being picked up by her parents for crying and screaming. The school cannot tolerate it any longer. That's why they send her home. She has been suspended 3 times for crying.

She is a very smart girl. Always eager to learn. She was so happy about going to Kindergarten and wearing her school uniform. She always like to be the first one to answer. Her academics is fine. She has great grades (whenever she is at school) but they are thinking of leaving her back. My theory is you get left back for academics not behavior, especially if we don't know the cause of her outbursts. If anyone out there can tell me what is going on or what I should do. She has never behaved like this in school or any public place. It's scaring the family. It seems like to me she can't help it.
What do you think?
Help me

[RockRose]

I agree with the others,  and wonder how long this has been going on?  

Has this been all year,  or the last few weeks?

Has she been evaluated by her pediatrician with a referral to an occupational therapist?

[Sandman2]

   Ya, if this is only happening at school something is going on.  Mmarkey may have a valid point.   You definitely need to visit the school several times to see what is going on.
   Also, you must stop punishing her at home for what is happening at school.  At this age behavioral modification must be immediate.  There is no way that doing something hours after the matter is going to work (as you and her parents have found out).  
   I will also say as a retired elementary school principal that it was not unusual to have kids cry for the first several weeks.  It never lasted longer then that.  To cry for a full year would be very unusual!  Which brings up another point.  If she was fine for the early part of the year, and only recently has started crying - that also points to something going on at school  (unless, there has been a recent family major event/tragedy).
    Please post if you have more info or any more questions.

[Mmarkey19695]

Take her out of the school  immediately and switch schools. I do not feel comfortable sharing my reason on a public thread so please feel free to private message me.  

[MarkLakewood3367]

By your description, it sounds as it this behavior only occurs at school.  Has she stated why she behaves like this at school?  There must be something that triggers this behavior especially if there is no history of this type of behavior.

Regarding discipline, it is much more effective placing a 6 year old in a form of a timeout than removing privileges primarily because she will be restricted from all activities at that time.

It seems to me that if she doesn't verbalize what is troubling her, the parents really have no choice but to seek a mental health evaluation.  The school counselor should be able to assist in this matter.