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8 year old temper tantrums
We have a 8 year old boy who, within the past 3 or so months has begun having extreme mood problems. Throwing things when he doesn't get his way. Refuses to do anything outside of the house. FOr example we wanted to go to Monster Trucks in a few weeks, but he refuses to go. If we do go, he will ahve his head down the entire time and will not even give it a chance. HE would rather play XBox etc than talk to anyone. If he doesn't do as well on a game as the adults do, he will throw the controller and say he is stupid and can't do anything. We have taken Xbox computers away from him, but the problem doesn't end. If he plays a board game with his sister (11) the same thing happens. We had a recent incident with one of the kids at school when the boy didn't stop throwing snowballs at him (even though my son never told him to stop) my son pushed the boy down to the ground. He said, I could tell he wouldn't stop if I asked him to...
He is an honours student at school (Straight A's on his last report card) very attenative etc there. I have talked to the teacher and she says he is a well adjusted respectful boy all the time. The flip side of this is that he will have extreme happy (to the point of being giddy) as well. I have only noticed this behaviour recently, but it has be concerned. Both my his dad and I try talking to him, trying to figure out what is going on, but all I get is the evil eye (when he is upset) or he completely ignores us if he is in a happy state. Any ideas here, we have tried just about every dicispline that we can think of. HELP anyone have a similar sit.
He is an honours student at school (Straight A's on his last report card) very attenative etc there. I have talked to the teacher and she says he is a well adjusted respectful boy all the time. The flip side of this is that he will have extreme happy (to the point of being giddy) as well. I have only noticed this behaviour recently, but it has be concerned. Both my his dad and I try talking to him, trying to figure out what is going on, but all I get is the evil eye (when he is upset) or he completely ignores us if he is in a happy state. Any ideas here, we have tried just about every dicispline that we can think of. HELP anyone have a similar sit.
My 8 year old son is acting weird as well.He was born with a sliver spoon in his mouth and still eats from it.He is our only child and will be the only child.He is very withdrawn from everything around him.Example...We could be having a awesome time at building Lego's or playing some video game.He will get up and grab a drink or something and totally ignore me and not want to play anymore.I have tried to have him interact with other children his age around our neighborhood but he does not do well with that either.He says they are babies or that they are stupid.He is not a bully and he is not a mean hearted person.Our doctor thinks it is just age.I disagree !!! Does anyone have any suggestions ????
Hi - I am experiencing almost the exact same behavior with my 8 year old son. I notice your post has been about a year ago. Did this just turn out to be an 8 year old thing? I am very interested in hearing if this a normal behavior. Thanks!
What things does the school have in place to deal with it zaza? What things have been tried?
my 7yr old he is bully at school um stessing a lot cause @ school they told me if he doesn't come right thy are going to expell him from school please help i need advice.
Sandman2, they never put me on any drugs, that was the problem. They never took my behavior as a serious indicator that something could be wrong with me, they just assumed that I was a dramatic child. It was hard to understand back then that children could be in large amounts of mental pain and anguish for no reason. Depression and anxiety were "grown-up diseases."
I remember feeling crushing depression when I was only 10, and having suicidal thoughts, and locking myself in the bathroom, talking to myself to try to get myself out of it, and my mother thought I was just being dramatic again, looking for attention. My parents had no idea.
When I became a teenager, the manic and the depressive episodes became way more intense, and that's when I started "self-medicating" with street drugs. I was so smart, and had such good grades before I started doing drugs. I would do any drugs I could get my hands on, at any time. In high school it was hallucinogens and ecstasy, and after high school I developed a problem with meth. I finally got clean of all drugs when I was about 20. I realized that the drugs exacerbated my problems in the end.
It wasn't until I got into a healthy relationship (with my now husband) that I realized that I had a real problem and I had to seek treatment. 3 therapists and a series of trial and error mood stabilizers got me on the right track.
It's still a struggle, especially now that I'm off the medication because I'm pregnant. But I always think of how closely I'm going to watch my child as she's growing, and to be aware of any of the signs that she's acting out because of inner turmoil. Children aren't just dramatic for attention, they act out because they know that something is wrong with the way they're feeling, and they don't know how to express themselves.
So all of you parents on here whose children are acting in these confusing ways, please get your child to a psychiatrist for diagnosis. And do watch out for the old, standard "ADD" or "ADHD" diagnoses. The medication for those disorders would be the worst things for a child who is possibly bipolar. (stimulants provoke manic episodes, just like anti-depressants, which will lead to eventual lows that will be so much more intense.)
I remember feeling crushing depression when I was only 10, and having suicidal thoughts, and locking myself in the bathroom, talking to myself to try to get myself out of it, and my mother thought I was just being dramatic again, looking for attention. My parents had no idea.
When I became a teenager, the manic and the depressive episodes became way more intense, and that's when I started "self-medicating" with street drugs. I was so smart, and had such good grades before I started doing drugs. I would do any drugs I could get my hands on, at any time. In high school it was hallucinogens and ecstasy, and after high school I developed a problem with meth. I finally got clean of all drugs when I was about 20. I realized that the drugs exacerbated my problems in the end.
It wasn't until I got into a healthy relationship (with my now husband) that I realized that I had a real problem and I had to seek treatment. 3 therapists and a series of trial and error mood stabilizers got me on the right track.
It's still a struggle, especially now that I'm off the medication because I'm pregnant. But I always think of how closely I'm going to watch my child as she's growing, and to be aware of any of the signs that she's acting out because of inner turmoil. Children aren't just dramatic for attention, they act out because they know that something is wrong with the way they're feeling, and they don't know how to express themselves.
So all of you parents on here whose children are acting in these confusing ways, please get your child to a psychiatrist for diagnosis. And do watch out for the old, standard "ADD" or "ADHD" diagnoses. The medication for those disorders would be the worst things for a child who is possibly bipolar. (stimulants provoke manic episodes, just like anti-depressants, which will lead to eventual lows that will be so much more intense.)
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Very interesting post! Thank you for the information. Just being curious what drugs did they try on you when you were younger. I am guessing they were either the ADHD meds which made you hyper or the others which made you a zombie. An ya, in the 80's they didn't have a clue.
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