Won't stand and pee like a boy

[Wisconsin_StepMommy]

I am a step mom of a wonderful 5 year old boy, I'll call JD.  The problem is, JD will not stand and pee like a boy.  I think it's mostly because he hasn't really ever been around other boys when they pee.  His dad closes the door behind him when he's in that bathroom, like most people do.  I was hoping that kindergarten would help him a bit since he would be seeing other boys pee, but they have a separate bathroom in their classroom so that idea goes right out of the window.  I was wondering if this is normal and what we can do to fix this.  I am starting to think the only idea now is to take the seat off of the toilet at home so he doesn't have a choice.  We've tried the cheerio in the toilet for target practice to no avail.  Help!!  

[awilde]

I have 2 8-yr olds.  1 stands, 1 does not.  I much prefer the one that does not stand... SO much neater.  I don't think you're neglecting him by not 'teaching' him to stand.  Maybe he just doesn't want to.

[Wisconsin_StepMommy]

Cleaning around the bowl isn't a real issue for me.  I'll do it, no big deal.  My issue is that he can't and will not stand and pee.  He doesn't do it in public and he certainly will not do it at home.  I don't want to force something on him but we are his parents so I feel there is a bit a responsibility on our part to teach him how to do this.  And me being his step mom, I feel it isn't my place.  I think I should just tell my fiance' to stick to his guns and do it.  

[BlueRidgeMama]

I have two boys and we ask them both to sit down to pee.  It keeps the bathroom much cleaner.  When they are in public, they pee standing up, but at home, even my hubby sits down to pee.  I think it is a family culture issue, so as long as he can pee standing up in public, it should save you from cleaning pee from around the bowl.