Hmmm. Have you read through the symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder? Here's a link that seems pretty clear. I'm really dismayed that it's considered a "disorder" rather than a "characteristic". Mild autism, and high intelligence can actually be a gift - where would the NASA space program be without scientists who are brushed with Autism? Nowhere, that's where. It takes all kinds to make the world work, and labeling a child with specific talents (I believe children overly focused on structure, physics, math or science have specific talents, not disabilities!) disabled doesn't seem to be looking at the broader picture.
If your son is successful in finding a few friends, gets along well enough to succeed in the classroom, and is fairly happy - I wouldn't worry right now about this diagnosis.
Thank you all so much for the comments. My Son met ALL of his milestones on time. Some like the gross motor skills were right at the end of the "average"..He's always been a happy baby, toddler, little boy. He listens, communicates & talks very well. He has lined up some of his toys, like cars. But he also plays with them...I have absolutely no reason to think he has Autism except for that hand flapping. & because the school dist mentioned it. I think he gave up because he didn't like he woman giving the screening & he was frustrated. Maybe I'm kidding myelf that alot of kids do that? In my heart I just firmly believe he doesn't have any form of Autism. It seems like it's such a heartbreaking disorder depending on the level of severity the child has & it just breaks my heart that the children & families have to deal w/it. When the school dist mentioned him having Autism & offering Special ED we asked what the chances were that he'd be in a normal classroom environment at some point. They're answer "it can happen". We were absolutely floored & from then on were pretty much adament & defensive that that would not happen to him. Again, I just do not feel that he has Autism. & it makes me angry that if kids display ANYTHING out of the so called Norm or don't fit that mold then they are labeld. I would agree that it's more of a charastic than a disorder..I've read that there is such a dramatic increase in the number of kids w/this diagnosis. Either we should be terrified that something is very wrong & inflicting our children w/this "disorder" or we should be considering that they are WAY OFF in their diagnosing of it. Now a days it's the popular diagnosis. 10 yrs ago it was ADD & ADHD. Everyone seemed to have it.
JonJonsMom - I'm wondering why you had him tested in the first place - is he in a pre-k program and they suggested he be tested? Was this something that all children entering the district undergo?
Here's my experience with school districts. If the child is compliant, and not a distraction in the classroom, school districts often downplay a child's learning disability because once the child is diagnosed, the school district is on the "hook" to provide a lot of expensive services. So it is in their interest to keep well-behaved children out of the special education services they actually could use and succeed.
If a child is a distraction in the classroom to the point that teachers can't teach effectively, or it takes a great deal of the teacher's physical and emotional energy to control that one child, the school district will find all kinds of reasons to get that child out of the mainstream classroom, even though intellectually that child can do all the work.
Is that what's happened here? Was he already enrolled in a pre-k and the teacher was unable to get cooperation from him, and they went looking for a label so he could be removed from the mainstream?
Actually no that's not what happened at all...In our State (MN) they do early childhood screening for kids ages 3-4..prior to entering Kindergarten. We took him to get his screening done & this is how this all came about. I almost think in my State that they WANT to have those special needs kids so they get the $$ for those programs. Because they seemed so willing to put him in special ed. They told me that at the moment he didn't qualify but if they were to test him in 1 month when he turned 4 then he would qualify & they wanted him to come to their preschool program.
He's in a preschool program now within a very large church & is doing very well. The only thing I've heard is that he needs to work on his listening skills. What 4 yr old doesn't? I ask him every day he has school "how was school today" & he'll tell me it was good, he played w/so & so..they're his friends..or "I got a time out today"...So there was no reason to get him tested other than that's what they do here...there's never been a suggestion of any problem either by anyone who knows him, friends, family members, or his previous daycares.
I guess I just feel like they wanted to put him in special ed. When I felt anything they thought they saw could be explained or was being blown out of proportion. If I thought he needed the extra help I'd have him signed up for special ed so quick & this wouldn't be an issue. I guess it's just that the dist told me something I don't believe to be true & I don't want it to haunt him his entire academic career (which hasn't even started yet)!. So we will pursue having him "offically" tested to rule it out or confirm it. At least then if it should ever come up w/the dist again we can say we've had him tested. Unfortunately there is a 6-8 month waiting list to get him tested & in the meantime I'm trying to find as much information as I can & see if anyone else has had this same kind of thing happen to them or their child...
It sounds to me, too, that they wanted to put him in special ed. When you were first describing the testing, I thought it was to offer him special services, or an IEP (individual education plan) or some other kind of support. To test him at this age and suggest removing him from the mainstream and then stating "it could happen" when you ask could he eventually be returned to the classroom seems EXTREME, I agree.
I also agree with you getting him completely evaluated by an independent OT not associated with the school, and I wouldn't even say he's been diagnosed with ASD by the district. Just maybe you're concerned about hand flapping and want to know exactly what his strengths and weaknesses are.
Best wishes. Yikes, this sounds so aggressive on the part of the district.
Thank You SO much. I thought I was overlooking something that was right in front of me or I was just being a crazy defensive Mom. It made me angry that they made me second guess my child. My Husband & I both feel the same as you have both mentioned. That it was extreme on their part to make such a diagnosis. HOW are they qualified to do that? They're teachers! & then to pretty much dash any hope that our son would be in a "normal" learning enviroment? I have to say, once we do get him tested if it comes out like we belive it will, I will certainly be writing a letter to the school district. I think they were out of line to try to make that diagnosis. How after 90 min they can make that kind of determination is beyond me. The turmoil & angst we felt & what we've gone thru is hard to put into words. I do believe I know my Son best. You've said, a mom knows her child best. I agree. Plus I'm my child's biggest advocate. Thanks again for the words of support.
Hi there, I'm coming here in several different roles..1 as a mother with a 3 year old with an Autism spectrum disorder...2 as a behaviorist for my local district in Special Education... and 3 as a huge advocate for early testing. It is my belief, that all pediatricians should, when they see a child from their 1 year check up on be giving a simple checklist test to the parents in order to see if there are any emerging ASD tendencies. I am actually quite happy to hear that a school is taking this kind of interest.
That said, I am also a mother who received this diagnosis 1 year and 4 months ago. I didn't see anything really except for a speech delay in my daughter. She was extremely affectionate, made eye contact with me, although not many other people, and did the cutest little things when she got excited, like hand flapping. She did meet all of the normal milestones up until speech became a factor.
I do not want to worry you. I must say this, Today, after being in a special autism preschool since April of this year, and being mainstreamed part time into a regular ed preschool since August, the school and ourselves decided that she was ready to be fully mainstreamed in regular ed, SHE's ONLY 3 1/2!!!!! we're thrilled to say the least. But that's the great part, we got the diagnosis, it was devastating, however, we started doing our homework and got on interventions right away. The sooner you can do this, the better your child will be.
I am definitely not saying that your child has an ASD, but from the sounds of it perhaps you should look at something called Asperger's Syndrome which is an ASD, but it is a child who has no seech problems. It is important to follow through on this though. Get him tested through a child psychologist, if it's nothing GREAT!, if it is, don't give up hope because there is so much out there. I for one would love to give you some of the great advice that we were given that got us where we are today with our daughter. Good luck, I wish you the best.
My son is 3. He is not an easy boy--very active, not always doing what we say ,trying to be the Boss...... but he seems normal and he goes to Preschool with no problems.
He does like to line up his toys --bugs or cars,.....
I just red a lot here that lining up the toys.........may be a problem.
Should I be concerned if my son playing with his toys this way?
We're on a 6-8 month waiting list to have him "officially" tested w/a center that deals w/behavioral disorders in children. We decided that it would be best to have him tested. We want to know & have something official in case it would come up at some point while he's in school...Although we are still adament that any assistance he could need would be thru this center rather than our school dist. They just didn't give us a positive reponse about having him in mainstream classes. I've watched him very closely over the past few months since the suggestion of Autism came up. Of course as his mother I do not want to see any of those signs. But I do admit there could be a couple. But I know from talking w/this people at the center that they do not diagnose ASD lightly & he'd need to meet so many signs before they would give that diagnosis. Which makes me feel much better. On the other hand IF he should get that diagnosis I think he would have such a mild case that I don't feel he'd need any special anything. He met every milestone & at every Dr. appt they did have a checklist which asked all kinds of questions about skills & behaviors. & nothing ever stood out. I've read up on Asperger's as well & he doesn't seem to fit that. So I guess I am in a holding pattern for now until I know a definite diagnosis. It's crazy too because if you look at the list of signs & traits of ASD, how many of us would have at least 1 of them? Quite a few I'd guess.
To sunnyola - If you've looked at the list of signs & traits & all he does is line up his cars I wouldn't worry too much. I think some kids just like to do that. They like things a certain way. Does he ever play w/them? Or just line them up & leave them? Does he play pretend? My son lined up cars but they were in line for a car wash!
I'm a mom of a 3.5 yr old who is going to community education pre-school, has been told by a behavioral specialist (teacher) after a 20 minute observation that they believe my son is on the spectrum. Your response to your child's experience is exactly what my and my husband's has been. We've met with a PhD Psychologist who sees a couple of flags - some eye-contact and repeitive speech - but doesn't strongly suggest testing. I'm interested in what your family's experience has been in these past years.
It would be wonderful, if you get a reply back. But, typically with a post that old - it doesn't happen.
I am curious - how long did the psychologist meet with your son? The behavioral specialist (teacher) watched him interact with his peers for 20 min. I am guessing that she did this because his own teacher after being with him for quite a period of time - requested the behavioral specialist (teacher) to watch him. If you feel satisfied that the psychologist spent an equal amount of time - that's cool. Although I wonder what you meant by, "doesn't strongly suggest testing." Is that your interpretation of what he said?
The whole point of this is that the sooner a child who presents problems gets help, the better the chances for a normal life. I would err on the side of caution. There is nothing the "help" would do that could hurt him.
Thanks for your reply. Probably won't hear from the mom that posted so many years ago - but wouldn't it be great to hear how the situation progressed? The behavior specialist observed Jacob in February after I put in a request for it and felt that he was not receptive no initiative socially and was pre-occupied with just one activity of blocks. His preschool teacher (30 year veteran) who has taught him this entire school year saw periodic repetitive language and some impulse control issues (revved up when another child initiates and usually towards the end of class). I, being a tad hypervigilant, kept inquiring about things and she ultimately said that given my angst that an eval would be a good next step. After she heard the behavior specialist say ASD she recoiled and said that she was concerned about such a designation and socially he does wonderfully. The PhD at Children's Hospital Mpls saw Jacob on two occasions for 1 hour each time. Her words were 'I will support your decision to test or not to test. There are a couple of flags'. My husband and I were looking for a yes or no. There's a lack of trust with the school district because they've made what seems like a quick judgement that alters what I thought my child's world was going to be. I'm worried that the threshold for qualifying for school services is so low that he will qualify simply by being tested. And if taught in a modified way will it be the best way for him.