Extremely emotional 7 year old

[italiamama4]

I have a 7 year old daughter who is in first grade, she has always been very emotional at home.  Last years in kindergarten she didn't have as many problems 1st grade is a completely different story.  She cry and screams all day long some days over nothing.  The littlest things will set her off an example she dropped her own pencil and the entire class had to listen to ear piercing crying for 20 minutes of it, her teacher said just pick it up that set her off for another 20 minutes.  She is to the point that the other kids in her class try everything in their power to keep from her crying.  They do not tease her, the teacher has been very careful to watch for that.

I have taken her to counciling no progress, the principal and school counsler got involved still no progress.  I honestly do not know what to do, she is extremely smart her test scores are in the 80% - 100% range.  She reads very well and is becoming quite quick mathmatically as well.  Now when it comes to P.E. we again have issues.  She has not cordination she can not even get the concept of how to pedal a bike.  She is not overweight by any means that would impair her physically she is very petite actually.  We have tried rewarding her to behave we also will not "baby" her so to speak when she has these melt downs.

For the time she was born she was never the type of child to need other to play with.  As a toddler she would entertain herself with her toys for hours.  She is very creative imagination wise when she was two she would go the entire day acting like a dog (eating, walking, sleeping) you could not get her to break charactor either.  She would even act out actions of dog like how dogs will rub their head against your leg to pet them.  All of this was self taught too, we never had a dog around her.

I monitor closely how she eats I do not allow her to eat a lot of junk food.  I will say though if we would allow her too she would eat non-stop from the time she wakes up till bed.  We give her breakfast in the morning, mid morning snack, lunch, afternoon snack and dinner.  That is still not enough she will sneak food and even when she is caught she will lie.  This has also became an issue at school stealing she will do it right in front of other know that they are watching and then when asked she will still lie.  

Could there be something causing this?  She has always been very healthy, she rarely get ill.  She had RSV at 5 weeks, acid reflux at birth she does have Von Wilderbrand Disease we found that out when she was 4.  Other then that she has no other health issues.  I just want to know how to go about getting her emotions in control before she ends up labeled in school as a problem child.  Please give me some direction in where to start.

[LRM1021]

I think you should get her evaluated by a pediatric neurologist or psychiatrist, if this has not been done already.
If your attempts and the school's attempts to get her calmed down are not working, then you need some professional help.

[italiamama4]

She will not lie to get food because it is never denied to her.  However she will sneak food and then lie even when she knows that she is caught.  She does have delayed motor coordination.  But the biggest issue is the fact that she is so emotional!

[LRM1021]

Instead of would like to get food-- I meant to write would lie to get food. Sorry about that.

[LRM1021]

The food thing you mention-- where she is constantly sneaking food--- does she try to steal other people's food? Does she get upset when food is denied to her? Here is why I ask..

Recently, a mother posted on this board describing a child who

-- ate voraciously, and was upset every time she could not get food
-- would like to get food
-- had delayed motor coordination
-- displayed emotional issues (extreme emotions)

She posted on the doctors forum-- and the Dr. suggested that she be evaluated by a pediatric neurologist/ specialist. There is a kind of inherited condition called Prader Willi Syndrome that can cause some of these things.