worried/concerned

[aliciafila]

i am trying to get some answers.  my sister was keeping my son at night while on went to school. on 3 seperate occasions she witnessesed some things and now thy are saying that my son is being molested.  i just dont know what to think.  1st ocassion apparently she caught both boys touching each other laughing. 2nd my son was on his knees in front of my nephew trying to take his pants off. the 3rd they were in the bath tub and my nephew was laying on his belly and my son like touched his butt with his pee. my son is almost 3 and my nephew is 3.  i have kept both boys with me several time and i havent never witnessed this kind of behavior before.  also on a seperate occasion at my other sisters house, he took off his pants and sat on my 9 year old nieces face.  i have never seen him do any of this and i dont know what is going on. we have taken him to the doctor there is no physical evidence that anything has happened. and he is being sent for an evaluation. i just dont know what to think please help

[aliciafila]

thanks to everyone who posted. it really makes me feel. and no my nephew isnt being evaluated and my sister has totally blown everything out of porportion like it is just my kid and he is being messed with but that is okay god will make sure this all works out. i do agree that perhaps he seen something somehow but not that its being done to him.

[margypops]

This is typical child behavior however it does sound as if they have seen and learned it somewhere so some answers are required, I don't think children of this age simply start doing the behaviors you have described ,possibly check out any older children that he./they have been alone with like the niece you speak of ....

[supermomma531]

Good Morning! If i were in your position, I would be concerned as well. If the doctor isn't finding anything to be concerned about then I would sit the boys down and try to talk to them so that they understand that what they are doing is unacceptable. I know how hard it is to talk to a three yr old, I have three children, my youngest being three yrs old himself. They need to have close supervision to ensure that they are playing appropriately with each other. Keep an eye on both boys when they are playing with each other and try to think back when this all started to see if you remember if there were any circumstances that may have caused this type of behavior. Like the others said, kids do experiment with their bodies to see how they function but there may have been a time that they somehow, someway were shown this type of behavior. Could they maybe have saw a movie by accident with no one noticing that they were in the room or maybe someone that has access to they family be showing them stuff inappropriately? Start teaching the kids now about inappropriate touching cause as we all know, the first five yrs is the best time when kids learn the best and the most. Could there be an older child who may have been touched and thinks its OK to do this to them? I would get your sister on bored with you and be on the same page as to when the boys are together, they know they have to follow the same rules wherever they go, whether it is at your house, her house or even at the park, wherever they go to visit or play. I'm sure of your doctor hasn't found anything, then there is nothing to worry about. Has your nephew been to the doctors to be checked as well? I hope that you can get down to the bottom of this and move forward with ease. Take care. If you need any other support, don't be afraid to ask.

[lynnla87]

so kids just have no idea what they are doing. they just like to experiment. or do things they have saw so i am not saying he saw this with you or your sisnter but kids will be kids and learn about there body's it is normal in most cases they are just learning what there body's do and how they function.. but if it gets any worse i would pursue something diffrent what i dont know but something.. i hope this helps.

[Sandman2]

    You have a two year old child who is being sent for an evaluation?  By whom?   What possibly could they expect to find out from a two year old.  I think most people would agree this is pretty typical behavior by boys.  Is your sister's son being sent for an evaluation?  I think that somebody is overly reacting.