I am scared!!!

[xmelax35]

My son is 10 years old.  Ever since he began cub scouts he has really became worse and really into guns.  What I mean by that is that he looks at magazines with them in it and wants to go to the gun range...wants to go hunting and so on.  This actually scares me.  For one he is always talking about them and wanting to get air soft rifle. 2.) his half brother for whom he does not know was into them for awhile and his biological father was too. The main reason I get scared is that he has anger issues and counseling has not helped a bit! I ground him when he gets mouthy and curses and says to shut up.  Depending on the extent of his issue at the time it is either taking something away from him that he thoroughly enjoys or grounding all together.  Yelling doesn't help.  I cannot spank him despite what people say to me and older people have said to me...because then I would have chilren services at my door and I would get him taken away.  I know that spanking is against children services laws...at least in Ohio I know because I got them called on me once and not because of that...long story but it was a false accusations bec a family member called (one of my parents bc they were in the middle of a divorce and told me they would call on me just to get back at the other!!!!) I am still angry about that.  They made it sound like bc I bought a lottery ticket once in awhile or took medicine for my anxiety at the time that it was a horrible thing and I had a problem!!!

Anyway, so now I fear children services and do not even scream at my son.  I have let him get away with everything from that day bec of what the lady said to me about how you should treat your children - even though I treated him with nothing but love and spoiledness.  Spoiling is a big no no that I should have never done and have done up until about 2 months ago because I don't want him to get angry.  What is wrong with me??? I got married to the man I have been with for 9 years 2 months ago and he thinks I am going to have serious problems with my son when he gets older. I do fear this and I also fear that he could do something to harm himself one day just because of seeing other children do so...I am really paranoid I guess.  He tried to take a magazine to school called cops or something like that and it has guns in it! I told him if he did they would suspend or expell him and he didn't believe me. I took it out and he put it back in and I finally got it again and so today he is really mad and yelled at me and gave me the evil look.

Okay so sorry this is sooo long.  Anyway, another reason I fear what my son will do is because his biological father whom he is not around and doesn't know, was abusive and very very angry - he has problems. He has been to court over trying to hit a man with his car, domestic violence several times, and domestic violence against a child too.  He has real issues.  The anger my son has I see his father in him.  I don't know what to do.  Like I said counseling has not helped one bit.

[Athena_M]

I don't think Cub Scouts is a good idea for your son.  I would get rid of those magazines with guns in them.  

Look into food allergies and sugar sensitivities and into avoiding red dye in foods those can cause major anger/behaviour problems in children.  The Feingold diet would probably help improve his behaviour.  

Good luck

[xmelax35]

he talks about the army alot at his age and wants to be in the army when he grows up. that scares me too. idk maybe I am paranoid and maybe it is just a phase kids his age go through.

[xmelax35]

my son also has a form of tourettes that he is getting treatment for.  They are calling it tourettes.  At first they just said a tic disorder that will go away but not they are saying it could go away and come back in adulthood. i personally question whether it is tourettes. I am scared it is that tarditive dysconetia (spelling) bec it happened after taking a certain medication that is exactly like that one that is linked to causing it.