My son (4 years old / 5 in Feb) has be exhibiting what I consider to be serious behavioural issues for the past 3 months. My Mother moved in with us this year as a result of my separation from my husband (father of my son). It has been a year of great changes and up until about June, very traumatic events involving our separation (father was in and out of jail / Mental Health hospitals plus restraining orders from both myself and his pre-school against my ex). Adding the fact that my son went from going to a very good pre-school full time where he bonded strongly with his teacher to starting half day JK in a different school.
This issues are that he doesn't sleep enough, goes to bed at 7:30pm and even though he stays in bed and usually doesn't get up in the middle of the night - he always has dark circles under his eyes and tells us that he lies awake in bed for a long time. He has been hitting children at school (teacher says that it is never out of anger, more out of boredom) he has been throwing tantrums at home with myself and my Mom. He says things like he doesn't want to live with us anymore and that he hates us and screams and cries emotionally when asked to do the simplest of things (put boots on, go to the bathroom, eat your vegetables etc..). He is a very articulate and bright boy with an wide volabulary and advanced comprehensive skills according to his teachers and what we experience. Until this year, he was always very calm and easy. He never expresses that he wants to see his father and I do encourage him to talk about him and when he does it is always in a matter-of-fact way ie..that's Dad's book - Dad's really tall etc... never in an emotional way. He has started to lie aswell. For instance if I ask him if he has gone to the bathroom or if he drew the picture or had help etc...
I am very concerned. My Mother has stated that if things don't improve soon that she will not be able to look after him anymore. She cries almost everyday and so does he. He expresses great regret after he says those things to us and he can be extremely caring and affectionate and has a great sense of humour.
Do you feel that this is a result of his age or a build up of all that has happened this year? I am afraid to add even more change in his life by introducing a specialist if this is simply normal.
How can I and my Mom help him?
Concerned Mom
ChrisCam