8 yr old touched feces at school

[hf2574]

My 8 year old son was found to have touched his feces in the bathroom at school.  From what I am being told by the principle, he smeared it on the sink and toilet seat.  My son swears it was only on the sink.  When confronted, he didn't lie or try to deny it at all.  This has NEVER happened before. He has never had a problem going to the bathroom or cleaning him self.  He has a very sensitive stomach and tends to gag at everything. My husband and I have had long talks with him and he doesn't change his story at all. He says he thought his friends would think it was funny.  The other aspect to this story is the day this happened, my son had read a book from the school library.  There was a song in the book about diaharea. The kids sang it on the way home on the bus the day before my son decided to do this. The song mentioned poop and the kids thought it was hysterical. My husband mentioned this to the principal. He said he would remove the book from the library.  We live in relatively small school district. So as you can imagine, other kids found out what he did.  They have picked on him and I feel really bad for him.  The school told me (which I don't know if they were protecting themselves somehow) that at this age, him touching his feces could be a sign of abuse.  We have talked to him about the good touch, bad touch and I don't see this being the case AT ALL.  Like I said previously, this is the only case we know about. What should I do?  Should I be concerned? Another issue I seem to be having is I have a friend who seems to be pulling away from me since this happened. Is she afraid my child has a problem and doesn't want her kids around mine.  Her son seems to continue to be the biggest "bully" towards my son and keeps bringing the incident up.

[benjimom]

Yes, in time this shall pass as they say and as for the friend pulling away, you find out who are your true friends in these types of times.  Your son has admitted what he did and why he did it, it's over and hopefully will not happen again.  It;'s hard being a parent sometimes, b/c if your child is having issues, everyone pins it on the parents.   I hope the bully child lets the incident go.  She doesn't sound like the best friend to have and her son is not a good example either.

[jdtm]

He says he thought his friends would think it was funny.

Believe it or not, a similar situation happened to our child (except she thought the feces was a fake item).  She wanted to "fit in" and be "liked".  The other children teased her about this situation - she also laughed and joked about it for a long time.  

I think I would just let things be - you have been to the school, you have talked to your son, I assume you have talked to this friend who is pulling away - rehashing and regurgitating this story will only make it grow and frankly, you're dealing with a molehill and not a mountain.  I wish you the best ....