I am a mother of three children ages 10, 8 and 6. Two older boys and a little girl. I have had a really bad relationship with my husband where there has been a lot of verbal abuse, a lot yelling confrontations etc... My oldest kids has anger issues and is doing poorly in school. I already started seeing those signs in my 8 year old. My 10 year old somewhat listens to me and follows directions. He hates the way his dad acts toward the family and is able to verbalize it. My 8 year old is full of anger also. Lately, he hits me when he doesn't get his way, and calls me names. When I discipline him by taking away his toys and sending him to his room he goes but he gets out without asking. He throws stuff out, hits, kicks, and keeps bothering the other two children. I feel bad for my little girl. Sometimes, I feel like she feels bullied. She resents them already and she says that they don't love her, and wishes she had other brothers. I started counseling but I feel like I don't have much grasp of what I should be doing myself. I get agitated with their behavior because is so personal, and hurtful towards me. I keep telling myself that they really don't know what they are talking about and that their responses are merely mimicking his father's behavior. The problem is that my husband and I are still together, and I don't see him changing his behavior anytime soon.