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I am worried my 7yr old boy is bully at school and they told me if he doens't stop it they are goin to expell him from school, please help me how do i stop him from being bully?
As I asked Zaza some more information about what is happening to him at school would be good ..thank you
What I read Margypops is that yes, he's been bullied but now is bullying others and the immediate problem is curtailing that behavior so he doesn't get expelled. Addressing the other kids sure would be helpful and then the mother has to work out this issue with her own child. I hope she is able to as it sure stinks when the school threatens expulsion. And I equally hope that any child mistreating hers would also be made to rethink their actions.
I had a similar kind of thing happen with my 8 year old. He went through a period of three boys being very mean to him. Then I caught him doing that to a 'weaker' child. I about died. I needed to nip that right away as no matter what happened to him, he could not turn around and be mean to someone else for the power trip of it or because he felt bad within himself.
IA great resource in most schools is the school counselor. Ours runs friendship groups that work on things like social skills, how to treat friends and others, recognizing when someone is being a bully and APPROPRIATE ways of handling it. They have vast resources to offer a family trying to work on personal issues with there kids. The poster may try to work with the counselor in their school as well.
Wishing the poster luck.
I had a similar kind of thing happen with my 8 year old. He went through a period of three boys being very mean to him. Then I caught him doing that to a 'weaker' child. I about died. I needed to nip that right away as no matter what happened to him, he could not turn around and be mean to someone else for the power trip of it or because he felt bad within himself.
IA great resource in most schools is the school counselor. Ours runs friendship groups that work on things like social skills, how to treat friends and others, recognizing when someone is being a bully and APPROPRIATE ways of handling it. They have vast resources to offer a family trying to work on personal issues with there kids. The poster may try to work with the counselor in their school as well.
Wishing the poster luck.
Your post to me states that the children start bullying him by teasing it sounds from what you say they start it, I dont think I am misreading .Could you clarify what is happening,thank you
Okay, so you are saying that your child is BEING the bully and not bullied. So you are looking as to how to change HIS behavior, right?
You do often find that kids that have an underlying issue such as add/adhd that they are suggesting your son has, that these kids will find ways to feel powerful and accepted. Often they have low self esteem and the power trip of pushing someone else around or being mean (bully behavior) makes them feel like they count when they previousy felt bad about themselves.
I would continue with the psychologist and work on social skills. Learning to BE a good friend should be the focus and understanding the consequences of bully behavior. Eventually, people will shun him for being the 'mean guy'. A psychologist can work on these social skills that might be lacking as well as address any self esteem issues he may have that drive him. If he has add/adhd --- he'll also have to work on his impulse control. Kids with add/adhd often lack a 'filter' with their words. A good book to try is "words are not for hurting." Love it. There is a second one called "hands are not for hitting" if he has aggressive behavior as well.
I think that I'd meet with the school and approach them in the context that you also really want to nip the bully behavior in the bud and are doing all you can. Tell them that you've seen th doctor and are begining psychological therapy. discuss the add/adhd evaluation. Put a plan in place WITH them so that he can be give a chance to improve this behavior. All discipline for a 7 year old has to come AT the time of the offense, which means AT school. good luck
You do often find that kids that have an underlying issue such as add/adhd that they are suggesting your son has, that these kids will find ways to feel powerful and accepted. Often they have low self esteem and the power trip of pushing someone else around or being mean (bully behavior) makes them feel like they count when they previousy felt bad about themselves.
I would continue with the psychologist and work on social skills. Learning to BE a good friend should be the focus and understanding the consequences of bully behavior. Eventually, people will shun him for being the 'mean guy'. A psychologist can work on these social skills that might be lacking as well as address any self esteem issues he may have that drive him. If he has add/adhd --- he'll also have to work on his impulse control. Kids with add/adhd often lack a 'filter' with their words. A good book to try is "words are not for hurting." Love it. There is a second one called "hands are not for hitting" if he has aggressive behavior as well.
I think that I'd meet with the school and approach them in the context that you also really want to nip the bully behavior in the bud and are doing all you can. Tell them that you've seen th doctor and are begining psychological therapy. discuss the add/adhd evaluation. Put a plan in place WITH them so that he can be give a chance to improve this behavior. All discipline for a 7 year old has to come AT the time of the offense, which means AT school. good luck
here is a link to check out called "An educator's guide for combating Bullying' www.edutopia.org/ and www.mayoclinic.com/health/bullying/MH00126 you can do some research there is much online about this nasty behavior.
aww poor boy so he is really just trying to stop them its not him he is copying and what else can he do but stand up for himself .I suggest you speak to the teachers about them teasing him , I don't think its his fault, if others start the trouble .Go to the principle .and tell you son to go to a teacher when they start on him this happened to one of my kids and he also had to stand up for himself .....
He is so short tempered when other kids start teasin him about his big head he then start to beat them n he gets very angry...or myb if thy are playing with other kids n 1 of the will pinch him n laugh bcaus thy are playin he will then start to fight that child.
At school thy just told that thy don't accept that kind of behaviour n thats when thy said to me if he doesn't stop that thy will expell him...because i was dead worried i took him to d psycologyst, thats when thy told me that the child is suffering from ADHD...at least now i no where to from here...thank u 4 ur concern.
No dear nothing has change @ home everything is still the same, me n my parter we dont fight @ all...2day i took him to d psycologist n thy told that he is suffering 4rom ADHD n they promised that thy will help him,after 2day i feel bit relived.
When a child starts to bully it is usually because something has changed in the home environment. Have you had a change? Bullying is a form of attention seeking and frustration.
They lash out at others because they have a problem.
They lash out at others because they have a problem.
How is he bullying ,is it all him or are others involved, more info is needed .please
What have they done to try and stop him? what have you done? And what is he doing? That would be helpful information.
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