children and their father

Question

Can someone give me articles on benefits and needs of children spending time with their father after a divorce.  I need it in court to prove my ex wife wrong, she wants to prevent me from seeing my children.
thanks

mariaor27 · Answer

No, I do not have much time for the internet.

SeriousSam · Answer

What search engines doyou  have access to? anything like lexis nexus, westlaw or an equivalent thereof?

mariaor27 · Answer

I am a dental surgeon, Live in Cyprus( they go by British Law)

SeriousSam · Answer

What professional rearch engines/databases (professional) do you have access to?

SeriousSam · Answer

Can you narrow the countries down to a specific one and what type of doctor? medical etc..?

Read 2 books if you can get them divorce made easy, and fathers rights by leving. The legal portion won't necessarily apply to you but the insights will really help you at this point.  Plus they have some of statisitics you need.

RockRose · Answer

I think if you have a good lawyer,  let him lead the way.  If you sense he is fighting for you and knows his stuff that's better than anything we can offer.

Laws are different everywhere,  and it makes my head spin that where you are (don't know where except Europe) a spouse can give an asset like a home to her mother without the consent of the other spouse.

I do believe strongly that when you go into court you need to not say she's evil,  she just wants to torture you,  she only had one goal and that's to steal your kids because she knows you love them,  etc.  As true as that might be in your particular situation,  it doesn't make you look balanced and sane.    It kind of puts you into that category of unpredictable ex-spouses who don't look like the best influence for the kids.  

Best wishes.  This is very hard.  Trust your lawyer.

mariaor27 · Answer

I am in Europe. I never had said anything to her or even fought with her. She had a goal, to have kids and steal all my mine. She did. Transfered our house we were building onto her mother. I have a lawyer which is good. She just is a wicked person, wants to torcher me, because she knows Iove my children. She never let my parents ever meet our children. The older one which is 3, my parents only saw 5 x, the other not even once.I am an intelligent doctor from North America. The judge is all for me to see the kids. I am not a substance abuser of any sort. I do not believe in that.

SeriousSam · Answer

If I know what state or country I can direct you to resources that can help you.

Trialanderror · Answer

Check .familycourtreform.org/id6.html

SeriousSam · Answer

Which state are you in?

babyprayers · Answer

I am an ex wife and I would love to give you some advise

courts in todays world are all for the father being activly involved. If you do not have a lot of money it does not matter, as long as you are not abusive to your children or do not put them in danger, please when you go to court, do not be argumentative, this is about the children and what is best for them, I do not know your whole story or why your wife does not want you to see the kids, if you have a substance abuse problem then you can still see your kids, if you  did bad things around your kids you can have supervised visitation, if your ex is just being an A$$ because you and her dont get along, then go to court with your head held high, and quietly but firmly explain to the court, I want to see my kids it looks better for you to fight for your kids then to let her get one over on  you

margypops · Answer

There you go , lots of information there . and hopefully some help for you , let us know how you get on , you care for your children, or you would not be here to ask, Good luck

SeriousSam · Answer

Glenn Sacks has tones of links on his sites, also look up the affects of parent alienation, single mothers and juvenile crime.

Statistically single mothers have children who are much more likely to have problems than single fathers.

You may want to contact milliondadmarch as a starter, fathers for justice (American branch) those should work for starters.

Her reasons for not wanting you to see your kids are irrelevant @ this point.  California polls in family court revealed that about 85% of all women wanted their ex out of his kids life and theirs.  Strangely they still wanted a child support check.

If their is even a vague reason for you not see your kids she'll dig it up.  Can you afford an attorney? If so do it don't stint.

right off though any documentation you find is probably going to be considered heresay evidence unless you have the person who wrote it available or unless she also doesn't have an attorney.

You need to establish what YOUR role in their lives was even if it is just giving them rides to daycare or making breakfast with them.  You also need to dig up both the statutes and caselaw as they apply to you.

margypops · Answer

I am sorry you are in this position, I dont think a court would not let you have visitation rights to your children unless you have been abusive to them, Children do need both parents in their lives, I believe many studies have been done showing that children do better  with both their Mom and Dad having a positive participation, if your wife has a problem with it and you know you are a good Dad fight for your rights and know that your children will be glad you are in their lives.There are many sites to go to and get information I believe one of our members may have the site to go to, Serious Sam , he has a thread here on the forum look at it and leave him a message.

babygirl6152 · Answer

if you put yourself in her place for one minute could you share with us her thoughts that would make her want to withhold your children from you-

I believe it's
Dr. Dobson who writes books about boys and their needs for attention, acceptance, and approval from their dads.