excessive crying in a one year old

[pupsteacher]

I am a teacher at a daycare and I have a one year old little boy who cries constantly. The only time he doesn't cry is when he is being held in standing position. sitting with him, comforting him will not work. He has been in daycare for a few months and this is still continuing. His mother is bipolar and doesn't have a connection with him and his dad picks him up in the evening. Is there something wrong??? I first thought it was separation anxiety but shouldn't this have improved by now because I comfort him alot.He will watch for you to come close to him and will cry if you pass him by. He will throw himself on the floor also. I had a specialist working with another child and she said he should be checked out but she only saw him for a few minutes. I once thought there was something severly wrong with him untill I watched closer and he would watch you then cry if you got futher away from him. He will also follow you around the room crying. please tell me where to look or research for answers. we use birth to three alot but I like to try a plan in action first to see if it helps....any advise would be great

[mrpresh110]

if U ask me, I tink that's the best.........lol

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Feel free to re read my post.  I didn't say all home day care is bad or anything of the sort.  But there are some that probably have no business running a daycare and this post was more related to such a situation.  Day care providers/babysitters popping kids and such.  All daycare, in home or otherwise should be checked out thoroughly by a potential family complete with references and a visit during the day to see what goes on there.  Any parent would be foolish not to do that.   I happen to know of several really excellent at home day care providers around me and I'd recommend them to anyone.  
Frankly, I would think that you would be unhappy with some of the posts here as they give daycare providers a bad name.

Good luck with your business and those with skills and patience to meet children's needs are highly sought after.  I'm glad you are providing this for families.

[loumary629]

I just recently read your response about home day cares. Your response are about people who just want to make a buck and not know anything about children is bull. I have an in-home day care and I have a CDA and a Assoicates Degree in Early Childhood. So don't label if you don't know what you are talking about. Parents can find quality care in both home and center-based day cares.

[Nik19]

My daughter is 14 months old and does what every other child is doing in this forum. And I've been sending her to daycare also, shes perfectly well behaved there, but hasn't changed her behaviour at home. I don't know what to do except ignore her when she whines, tell her no that is wrong and then praise her when she behaves...some days my methods work others they don't, I wish there was more solutions on here

[cbn]

I think there are two conversations going on here - and they're separate from the original post.  One is the concept of physically touching a child to alleviate the crying (aka popping) and the second is the original post - how to help this daycare provider figure out what's going on and how to make the situation better.  Not many of these posts are actually helpful to Pupsteacher.  Thank goodness her post is 4 years old - hopefully the problem and the child are out of her responsibility at this point.

I'm curious to see what others' do.  Our nanny works with my daughter who's happy and doesn't cry or fuss much as well as another baby who will literally cry all day long for no reason.  No napping, etc.  I work from home and listen to this transpire all day.  The two of us have no idea what to do.  Any help or thoughts are greatly appreciated - leave the hitting out of the conversation.  It's not part of our consideration set.

Thanks!

[crushin009]

There are lots of things adults do or teach their child that we do not expect them to do right away while they are toddlers.  So when I pop my daughter and sit her in time out (after several warnings)  she knows she did wrong and there are consequences for her actions.  She does not think ok now I go to school and hit my class mates.  
   After the time out I explain why what she did was bad and I explain she was given chance after chance.  She will then say sorry and the world is great again.  

She spends a lot of time with her cousins who are not punished at all.  Once in a great while they get a time out and on very very rare occasions a very small "pop".   THESE KIDS BEHAVE HORRIBLE.  One is a constant attention beggar who screams and hits all the kids he is around.  Remember this is a kid who is not spanked. The other kids do not listen to a single thing you tell them. I am the only one they sometimes listen to. Mind you I have never spanked the others but they see me spank my daughter and put her in time out even though they don't get punished.  I know your thinking that's horrible for my daughter to get punished while the others don't.

If you ask her why that happens she will tell you...    "So I behave better and people like me more cause I am good"  The difference in these kids who come from the same background and are together almost every day is like comparing night and day. One day about a week ago we witnessed the all too familiar screaming kid in the super market.  My daughter said "He needs a spanking and time out"   Children today have no consequences for their actions....     15 years later the parents are gonna wonder why they are behind bars.