Thanks for your reply. I am really stuck with my 2 Girls and sometimes they give me very hard time and i get really upset couldn't understand what to do....
I hope everything goes well n settled.
Hi Reena, if you go through the posts on this forum, you will find that your daughter is pretty typical of a 3 year old. That's a pretty interesting age. They are just really becoming aware of their own intelligence and that they can manipulate the world around them by their actions.
You will find lots of suggestions to other parents in these posts that will help you.
I would also add that bribes work because they are immediate, but all they do is really train the child the wrong way. Bribes are ok if used as a reward for good behavior.
I would think seriously about more time for your daughter in childcare. She needs the socializing experience for preschool - and you could probably use the break.
Don't worry about her not having guilty feelings - I doubt that a 3 year old has much of a conscience yet. That is something that you can help her develop. Trying to get her to realize something is wrong is nice, but what you want is for her to KNOW that if she does something wrong there will be a punishment.
At her age, the rule is simple. Have an immediate, consistent action (timeout) when she breaks an important rule. It will take close to 3 weeks to get her behavior to change, but it will change if you are consistent and immediate.
Its nice that she is feeling like a big girl. You can use that to help you with her little sister. But in terms of safety, there is no choice.
Finally, it really comes down to what she wants to do, and what you want her to do. Remember at her age - its not understanding as much as reaction. Once you do a bit more reading and understand what is age appropriate for her - I think things will make more sense. Good luck!