Hi. Well, I have a first grader and a second grader, both boys. My second grader has girls that have a 'crush' on him. His teacher has told me this as well and these girls are fairly aggressive. She told me to let her know if they go too far or annoy him too much. All pretty harmless though. I liked his teacher last year for many reasons but she was no nonscense and beat the kids to the punch for certain things. She said it was a firm rule--- no girlfriends/boyfriends in her class period. This is a great idea for a class that has an issue in it. AND, in my first grader's class this year--- there is a girl and boy that are 'girlfriend and boyfriend', so they say.
My point is this---- this is actually pretty common in early elementary years and pretty meaniless.
So, to me as a mother, it is a big difference between a little girl having a crush, saying that she is his girlfriend, etc. and actually becoming sexual with her. So, no. I don't blame her for what happened.
I'd also say that maybe . . . maybe your son was trying to be funny by doing an outrageous act of showing them his business . . . as misguided as it may be. But, he needs to know the rules. NEVER is he to do that again.
I agree that this is a teachable moment. I don't think it helps to blame the little girl but instead help your son learn to make better choices for himself. That is a life lesson. good luck
I think that knowing that based on the info provided is pretty tough to say. And honestly, not sure that that even matters. I think you are doing a good job continuing to reinforce that privates are privates, and what is inappropriate. I think if you continue to have calm discussions with him about things like that, the behavior will end, at least on his part. If the school and DHR is involved, then they should be the ones contacting the parents of the little girl. Perhaps there is something going on in her home, or perhaps she is doing this as an attention seeking method. But again, I don't think that really matters. It's important for you to focus only on your son's behavior as you are doing. Working with the school, and talking to them is also important (and I know you are doing that as well). But they are both only 6 years old, so I probably wouldn't make more if it then a teaching moment for your son.