why would she say me?

[curious663]

one year ago my 3.5 yr old daughter caught masterbating by a very shocked startled mom who chastised her and asked my daughter where she learned to do this and i am informed that she replied that she learned it from me??
why would my daughter say something like this...i mean we are very close and tell each other that we r a team and that were best friends...and this all happened 1 mth after my x and daughter were kidnapped and let go 30 min later the person got out of the car and ran...also i have had talk with grace that no one is allowed to touch her in these private places just her.
but i am her father ...is has a poop and cant wipe properly i'll do it for her..baths showers .. i just dont understand can anyone help shed some light on this please?

[Tati46]

I believe that your daughter just learned it on her own, or it's a made up by the X. My advise, just keep an eye on who your child is playing with. Lots of times children are molestd by other children, like, "Playing Dr." Also watch who is baby sitting your child. Many times, for the most part, a child is molested by a family member or close friend of the family. Most molested children want to be touched in a sexual manner by other children while playing or expose them selves to them. I learned this through my own experience with a cousins daughter who I later found out had been molested. They become sexual with other kids. If none of these things are happening, then don't worry, she just found a spot that fels good and can't stop feeling it. Just let her know that it's natural but she is too young right now to understand why she shouldn't do it. Reason why I would discourage the hehavior is because other wise she'll be masterbating any where all the time. Good luck.

tati46

[RockRose]

I just read your other post down the board,  and this one again  . . .  

Is it possible your ex is making this up?   Based on what you know about her is it possible that for custody or some other reason she's made this story up about the daughter naming you?

And I'm curious - did the kidnapping case ever get legally resolved?  Was it a case of carjacking - someone opened the car while she was in it and drove off?  Or is she saying she was thrown in a car and kidnapped?

[RockRose]

curious - she probably doesn't know how she learned to do it,  it kind of comes naturally.  I don't think most people learn to masturbate by someone telling them how,  or someone demonstrating in front of them.  It comes naturally.

When she was 2 1/2 she said you taught her?  Her mom was mad,  asking who taught you that and she didn't know even how to answer that - so she sort of guessed.  

[rebbecca]

have your watched a dirty movie and she walked in on you, or could she have walked in on you and a gf? little childs do these kind of thing, i really dont understand why but they do.
3 years ago i walked in my livingroom and my 3 year old stepdaughter was doing the same thing on my couch, i thought i would die, i yelled for her dad, and i called the dr.
by any change, when she was kidnapped do you think something could have happened?
oh, and since she is almost 4, start getting her to wash herself in the bath! and buy some of those miost wipes and she can wipe her own butt!