Proving to my kids father

[brandianfaithmomma]

I had a 1 night stand in the begin of Feb. Than Feb 16th I started dating my kids father. Everything between us was good until I seen the guy again an didn't know they was cousins. Time flew by an I found out I was pregnant. I went an got the ulterasound done an she was I was due jan.16th. My baby father is there an she said she was concitive April 16. To me she belong to my kids father but to him she don't. When he looks at her he say she look just like his cousin an not him. To me an other people say she my twin. I want to know is there anyway that my child could possible be his cousin baby. Remember my due date is Jan.16 an I had a 1 night stand in Feb. I don't want to loose my family.

[AnnieBrooke]

I didn't say he should compare the baby to pictures of his cousin, he should compare the baby to pictures of himself, when he was a baby.

Anyway, he sounds kind of obsessed about this.  Get the DNA test and then forget it.

[brandianfaithmomma]

Him he got program in his head that she his cousin he take pic of his cousin an his kids an compare them. She look just like me an my family than I seen picture of his baby sister she got the same nose an forehead. I think bc she not dark skin like him he going to have dought about her. than when you have a image program in your mind its hard for that person to look the other way.

[brandianfaithmomma]

I had my period in Feb. bc that's when we started dating an I had 1 in March. After that I didn't have 1 but I never notice that. Plus we use a condom 1 time through out our whole relationship.

[AnnieBrooke]

Incidentally, see if his mom has some baby pictures of him that she can bring over.  Then compare the baby pictures of your boyfriend to photos of your daughter.  (Comparing pictures to pictures is the best way to do this, not photos of him to her in person wiggling around and in color.)  You'll probably see a match and that might also help calm him down.

[AnnieBrooke]

No.  A baby is born when it gets born, and it does not reach back into time and change when the baby was conceived.

As long as the last time you had sex with the cousin was in the beginning of February and not within range of April 25, you have nothing to worry about.  I mean, you must have had one or two periods in between the one-night stand and getting pregnant, can you remember?  Anyway, take the DNA test so your boyfriend can stop obsessing, and then let the issue go.

[brandianfaithmomma]

K but her coming on Dec.25th don't change nothing

[AnnieBrooke]

No sweetheart, the pregnancy did not originate from the 1-night stand at the beginning of February if your due date is January 16.  Your boyfriend is just freaking out because he keeps thinking of you having had sex with his cousin.  Here is what the conception calculator says for the January 16 due date.

     Probable date of ovulation:  April 25, 2013
     Possible dates of conception:  April 21 to 29
     Due date:  January 16 (40 weeks)

Best to just get a DNA test and calm his nerves.