Who is my baby's daddy?

[crazycurious11]

Okay so many of y'all know my situation and are all probably annoyed by all of my questions, lol I'm sorry I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and I need help. The first day of my LMP was Feb 23, I had sex with my bf on March 3rd and he finished inside me. (I make it clear that we were not together at the time but we were before our break up in a 3 year fully committed relationship) then after we had sex we stopped talking again and me being hurt and all I've always been the type that feels better with attention (I hate that about myself but my dad never gave me the attention I needed from a man) anyways, I slept with another guy on March 9th (my supposed ovulation day) then a month later I find out I'm pregnant so of course the first person I tell is my ex (now bf) because he was the only one that came to mind and he automatically thought it was his and asked no questions and I myself believed it until his mom asked for a DNA test since I had hurt him once before and he decided to put it behind us and keep strong but she still never forgot, I don't blame her. I never cheated though it was something else. So I guess then the other guy came back to mind and I been freaking out. So according to numbers I was wondering if each of yall who are willing if yall can do the math (I've already done it myself) but tell me what yall get. In all honesty PLEASE. like I said I had sex with my bf March 3rd and sex with the other guy March 9th, my LMP was Feb 23 (I'm not sure when it ended because I can't really tell when my period ends Idk if I count the brown left over blood or just the heavy days) and I've only jotted down my last 3 periods which have been Dec 25 Jan 25 and Feb 23 I'm not sure if those numbers are needed but your answers will definitely help in my decision on what to do. So please be honest with what you get, who's my baby daddy? Thanks in advance.

[rachb11]

When are they saying your conceived date was? Usually this app will tell ya. Like my last period was March 7th. I "conceived" on March 21st. (exactly 2 weeks later) So okay if your last period was Feb. 23rd about 2 weeks later your slept with your boyfriend on March 3rd. So saying you conceived 2 weeks later exactly it would have been the 8th of March the day before you even slept with the other guy. I PERSONALLY would say it's your boyfriends. Did you decide to keep the baby?

[smiley_one]

I still think it's your boyfriends baby, but like I said on another question you posted, there is always still that chance since you slept with them so close together, but I really really believe it is your boyfriend's baby.

[rachb11]

I agree with smileyone. There is always that possibility it could be the other guys, but i also really think its your boyfriends!

[marishaxoxo]

I'm in a similar sitjation mama, but I had my lmp between partners. Partners were ten days apart. I did my math based on every scenario, every calculator there is online, and posted here a lot too... every answer was one guy in particular. Even early ultrasound dating scan points to the same guy. I'm 35 wks now, with all that info I STILL obsess over it. I'm STILL terrified. I know what you're feeling it is so scary not knowing. As my date approaches I feel as scared as ever. This has been 8 months of me torturing myself. Pleas

[crazycurious11]

This app says I conceived March 8th. But it could be off? And when I went on this website for the conception calculator and it said I conceived between March 4 and 12th :(

[marishaxoxo]

e don't do that to yourself! Enjoy your pregnancy. I agree with the others, its your boyfriends baby. Let go of the mistake and close that chapter of your life. We all make mistakes. Just learn from it, enjoy your fiancee and baby to be. Good luck

[smiley_one]

It all depends on the date you ovulated. Some women ovulate at different points after their periods. Remember that sperm can live inside you for a day or so.

[marishaxoxo]

Did you have a dating scan??

[crazycurious11]

I'm so scared I don't know what to do :'( on the bright side I got a phone call a sec ago from the other guy saying if its his he wants to take care of us. Only problem with that is, I don't want him :'(

[crazycurious11]

What's a dating scan?

[rachb11]

Yeah it will say you conceived the 8th because its exactly 2 weeks later. Maybe you could ask your doctor to see if he has some advice on it. Basically all you can do is wait to see and have a DNA test done. We can't really tell you who exactly it is, all we can do is guesstimate on when you would have conceived just like anyone else. Try to enjoy your pregnancy and just think about your baby.
(:

[smiley_one]

I know you are scared hun, but even if it turns out the baby isn't your fiance's then at least you know the other guy wants the baby and you can give him full custody if you want to.

[rachb11]

Also have you told your boyfriend that it could possibly be some body else's yet?

[marishaxoxo]

I had an early ultrasound at 7 wks,  the earlier it is the more accurate.... based on your lmp and the measurements of the baby you can kind of get a better idea of conception window.... :/ no matter whose child it is, the definite thing is its your blessing.... don't beat yourself up you will go crazy. I know its hard but if you want a 100% answer you have to wait til baby is here. :(

[MamaBear0612]

It's really hard to say from the dates, the guys are just too close together, and it's impossible for anybody to tell you exactly when it happened. All I can say is honesty and a DNA test are your best options. You have two guys willing and ready to be good dads, it's more than a lot of women get.

[crazycurious11]

Thanks yall I will definitely talk to my doc about it and no I haven't and I don't think I would give my baby to this guy, he teaches his girlfriends daughter cuss words its so sad. I hope its my boyfriends but Idk I'm worried because we had unprotected sex for the whole 3 years we were together and I never got pregnant until now but I also did with that other guy that is also why I think its not my bfs. At least I have this other guys cooperation in getting DNA tested before I give birth if I decide to keep it.

[crazycurious11]

On April 23rd I had my first appointment. Doc said I was exactly 8w4d

[Cassidyy12]

Since yur bfs mom is askin for a dna test, whatre yu gonna do if its the other guys? Yea it could be yur bfs but if yu ovulated the day yu had sex with that other guy, it could be his. More so than yur bfs.
I wish yu luck

[crazycurious11]

That's what the other guy asked me and I said abort.

[smiley_one]

But if you don't tell your fiance that there is chance that it could belong to someone else and then all of sudden you aren't pregnant anymore, he is going to be suspicious.

[crazycurious11]

I've been telling him that I've been cramping just incase I decide to do that. He thinks he's funny by telling me that I'm just constipated -_-

[MamaBear0612]

I thought of that, that your boyfriend is definitely going to be suspicious and your going to have to lie like crazy. I also wonder if you could really feel that way and get an abortion just because the baby doesn't belong to the "right" guy, maybe you're right and you should put motherhood on hold. I hate to say that, because on a personal level I can't even imagine getting an abortion. I know you're in a hard place, but your decision-making right now isn't very motherly, so maybe you're not ready for it at all. Having a baby is about the baby, not about us, our feelings, or our relationships...at least I think it should be.

[marishaxoxo]

With 8wk4days on april 23 wouldn't that put conception at march 4th roughly??? If I remember correctly the margin of error for an 8wk scan is +-2 days with an experienced ultrasound tech?? Google it hun.... might make you feel better or better informed...

[crazycurious11]

Your absolutely right, I agree with you 100% I'm also scared to be a bad mom I don't want to be a bad mom I've cried so much because of that as well, I'm not ready and I should have kept my legs shut. This poor baby, I don't even know what life to give it. I'm emotionally unstable and I think that is worse than being any other type of instability. I hate to admit all of this but I just want to make the right decision and I'm scared of everything, always have been.