Who is the father of my baby?

[sarabee23]

I will be 12 weeks pregnant on Friday.  I had intercourse with my ex-boyfriend on June 23rd I am almost certain I had my period 3 days later and then I had intercourse with my new boyfriend on July-10th.  I am concerned that the baby may be my ex's instead of my current boyfriend. If I counted correct from June 23rd til Sept. 15th would be 12 weeks excatly and I would only be 9weeks if I got pregnant on July 10th.  I have not had a ultrasound  yet my doctor just checked me and I have not told him my concerns about my ex-boyfriend being the father. Could I have had a period 3 days after intercourse and still be pregnant since I do believe I had a period at the end of June.  My period in May was on the 30th so would I have even been fertile around June 23rd anyway? I am so confused and don't know if I should tell my new boyfriend about me and my ex having sex or not in fear that he may leave me. What should I do and who do you think the father is?

[vbeauty21]

WELL ABOUT YOU SITUATION I AM SORRY, BUT I CAN RELATE, DO U KNOW HOW FAR ALONG YOU ARE?

[lucylocket2]

All I can say is wait till u talk to your doc. ,but u can't be for sure till the baby is born. Then have a paternity test done.

[mumwith#4]

I am 10 weeks today and I know that I conceived on July 19th so if I were 12 weeks I would've conceived 2 weeks prior to this date which put me closer to the June boyfriend. But you might have to have an u/s to work out exactly how far you are along and then work it out from there or do what the other poster suggested and get a paternity dna test once the baby is born. So sorry this must be very overwhelming for you at this time!

[cugirl]

I "O"ed later than I thought...my due date by my period should be Oct 22...but when the u/s and measurements were done I am now due Nov 1st.  I believe I read somewhere that from the date of your last missed period you are already 2 weeks pregnant, thats what the Drs determine.

[luvbug02]

unless you O late in your cycle then its probably current BF's baby  but an u/s will help more. Good luck.

[sarabee23]

By my doctor's exam he said I was 11 wks last Friday. Since I am for sure I had a period on June 26th is it possible to have a period and still be pregnat since the date of intercourse with my ex-boyfriend was June 23rd?  I am so scared to say anything I don't want my new boyfriend which who I have known for 2 years but just starting dating in July to think I have lied to him to try and trap him but at first when I found out I was pregnant I really didn't think about it being my ex's because I was for sure I had that period the end of June but when the doctor checked me and told me how far along I was I got to thinking and that's when I realized the time period between when I was with my ex and the due date where way to close.  I know that you only are fertile so many days after you period so if I had my period the month before on May 30th then it would of been my 23rd day of my cycle on June 23rd so would I had even been fertile at that time I thought you ovulated around the 14-16th day of your cycle?  Maybe the doctor is not right about how far along I am and I should ask for a ultrasound to make sure.
Thanks for talking to me about this it has really been driving me crazy and having someone to talk to about it helps alot.

[mamabear72]

Sara,

When doc's calculate how many weeks preg you are I believe it's calculated from the first day of your las period. Could this be why they think your 11 weeks along?

[sarabee23]

I did tell him that my last period was June 26th and the nurse did say they go by your last period.  But when the doctor did his physical exam of my uterus he said it feels like I am about 11 weeks along.  Can they tell by just feeling you?  And even if I did have a period after having intercourse since it was only 3 days later could I still of been pregnant when I had my period on June 28th.

[J.Lo52]

Well You are pregnant by your EX BOYFRIEND! run to the nearest abortion clinic... your ovulation period was 14 days after your last cycle before that... which makes it week 3... then your period is on week 4...

[mum2beagain]

Umm it's probably a bit late for that if you check the dat of this question she was 12 weeks pregnant in Spetember 06!

[ang7880]

And who are you to tell her to go to her nearest abortion clinic?  I'd love to know what sara chose to do or who's it was....but it's not your place to advise someone to terminate their pregnancy.   In my opinion, it is a child, not a choice!  It is not OUR decision to make...nor hers...only God's.  But that's my own personal opinion.  I know this is a controversial subject for many...

[jenuine]

I understand what u are going through...personal experience..I'm going thru the same thing right now but i spoke to my doctor @ my situation and she told me not to worry because all my dates and numbers match...i had sex w/  someone else in Dec.2006 and got period Jan. 12, 2007 and meanwhile my boyfriend and i were having sex...On Feb. 12 i found out i was pregnant and am now 34 wks pregnant!! The reason i am so worried is because i had a ultrasound 3 days ago and the technician zoomed on the baby's face and the nose is nothing like my or my boyfriend's...I know ultrasound pics are not like regular pics but the picture is haunting me...i even showed my boyfriend and he was like where did he get that nose from...so that put me even more on edge...i don't want to tell him @ what happened in December for the same reason u don't want to tell your boyfriend....So even though i have my doctor telling me not to worry, i can't help it..i'm very worried...I'd suggest you speak to your doctor and see what she/he has to say @ it...if the number's do not match i'm pretty sure they will let you know!!! I hope all works out for you..God Bless!!!

[tutani]

STOP GETTING PREGNANT!!!!

STUPID BOYS THAT DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO WIPE THERE BUTTS ARE TRING TO GET THE GIRLS PREGNANT AND ITS NOT LIKE THAT BOYS

YOU NEED TO RESPECT THE FACT THAT ALL GIRLS SAY NO FOR A REASON CAUSE THEY KNOW EVEN IF YOU SAY OH I PROMISE BABY ILL TAKE CARE OF THE BABY WE ALL KNOW YOUR LYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    GIRLS DONT OPEN YOUR LEGS TO THESE FAST BOYS THERE JUST       HHHHHOOOOOEEEEESSSSSSS!!!!!!!

[kat8206]

sara  i was wondering how everything turned out for you did you find out who your babys father might be, and if so have you told your boyfriend that yo may not know if its really is and how did he take it. im askin becase im going through the same situation and i dont know what to do my baby is about to turn 2 and i still do not know but i live with this confusion day by day its awful

[Brit2691]

ok i think really that it has to be your exs but what you should do is do a paternity test the day its born...and have both the (maybe) fathers there just in case you kno...and dont listen to the murder that told you to get an abortion....abortions are wrong...its your child..it dont matter who the father is it matters that the baby has a father figure...my friend is a sperm doner baby and adopted and shes soo happy! it all depends on you...i know what its like...your not a ***** or anything your only human! i hope all ends well for you!

[cherub28]

at frist my doc said I was 5weeks  after my ultrasound we found out I was 11 weeks good luck with that sweety

[quiteasamouse]

if i am 8 weeks pregnant and i normally have unprotective sex with my boyfriend all the time. i had my period on jan 10th and it lasted for about 9 days shortly after that i had sex with my boyfriend on jan 21 unproctecitive and maybe a few days after that. i cheated on him with my ex on the 29th of jan and he pulled out  but i know i still can get pregnant. shortly after that on jan 30-31 i had unproctective sex with my boyfriend again and he didnt pull out. im worried i may not know who my child father is can someone please help me

[tina081]

I am 24wks...Due date Feb 23.2010...the first day of my last period was May 18th...I had sex with the first guy on May 29 and the second June 3...Can you help with who is the babys father?

[confused19869]

I think the way most of you could have stayed out of the situations you are all in would be to use contraception, none of you are ready to have children if you cheat on your partners.  My opinion sorry if it offends

[hager09]

hello hunny. listen i hate to be the bearer of bad news but i did a conception calculation on your dates and you conceived  may 29 thru the 6th as possible conception dates. hope this helps you . best bet get a dna test. sorry

[mandyboo]

ok so i had my period october 1st. it lasted five days and my period is regularrr. i had an ultrasound done saying i was 6 weeks and 1 day and that was on november 19thhh... when i called my obgyn the tell me my conception windows last day was on november 21st...
but im still a little scared beccause me n current boyfriend had sex on november 16 and 17thhh but on the 23rd of novmember i did something real stuipid out of madness and had sex with my x....... i knooo this is frckinnn pycoo wat a stupid thinggg i did but i jus wanna kno sooo any advice on who the father could b..... i already have a good idea it is the boyfriend i jus want some more opionsss

[sweetnjuicey024]

ok I had sex wit my ex one time he use a comdom and it  didn't brake but I think he came n one and sum sperm leaked out cause he kept humping den he took it off I asked him did he *** twice he said no it's pre- cumm but in da sec condom there was sperm now dis was on the 12th den I had unertected sex on da 13th with my boifriend now dis happen in dec and I was ovulating now it jan and I'm 4weeks preg but da doc say 6 dey cout my period for sum odd reson  but I been trying to get preg by my boifriend and nothing wrk and soon as I **** another ***** I'm pooped and we used protection I feel sum had to slip out but my boifriend want me to get a dna test while I'm preg and ima let yall knw how it went you have to be 8-10wks to gt it

[Gooddad]

I am sorry that you who have to go through this have your dilemma. I was on the other side of the situation. My sons mother slept around. I did not sleep with anyone else and was under the impression that she was faithful with me as well. Not only was she sleeping around but she had at least two of us thinking we were the only one. The other guy did not care what she did. Because of her infidelity, my entire life has been turned upside down. I have taken full responsibility by moving 750 miles away from my family and everything that I knew to be a father with my son. It has destroyed my life. I do not want to be with the mother and she has done everything to try and get me out of my sons life. There are no laws protecting good fathers from the emotional anguish caused by heartless women. I think there should be laws that protect men from women like this. Women who do not know who their child's father is should be seen as unfit and not capable to raise children the right way. I understand that all women are not like my son's mother, but there needs to be some accountability towards their actions. I love my son and want more children but my life is spent giving her all that I have and do not have the money or time to find a healthy relationship, not to mention that I live in a state I wish I was not in. All the time and money spent on lawyers alone should be a cause for such laws to be put in place.

[Sinead485]

Im so sorry for what you have been through, just no that there are still women out there that are faithful to ther partners - Im 9 weeks pregnant to my partner of 1 year :) Good luck to you and your son