Is the baby mine?

[Samking502]

I had unprotected sex with my ex girlfriend on the 7th August 14... She is due with a baby on 25th June 15 is the baby mine? I'd like to settle and get sorted if it is. Thx

[AnnieBrooke]

Is the baby yours?  No.  Someone who is due on the 25th of June would have conceived around October 2.  Unless your ex just made up the estimated due date (it is most accurate when gotten by an ultrasound measurement relatively early in the pregnancy), it doesn't look like there is any chance of you being the dad.  Due dates can be inaccurate, but not by eight or ten weeks.

[Samking502]

She is definitely due then as she has had multiple scans saying the same. Do you think I  should completely forget the chances of it being mine? I know she has been with another man since our encounter on August 7th. It was just on my mind and I didn't know what way to head about it

[Samking502]

But as you said the dates are impossible to aren't they

[Samking502]

I also don't know when her last period was.. But due date is definitely correct

[AnnieBrooke]

Unless you had sex with her in late September, stop worrying.  (Or hoping, if that is what you are doing.)  By the very end of the pregnancy, a due date based on scans can be a bit off, but not this far off, and this is not the very end of the pregnancy.  

[Samking502]

Sorry I didn't understand that last comment Annie, do you not think the baby is mine? It was definitely August 7th we slept together and she's definitely due 25th June. I don't really understand it all
Being a man but looking like it's not mine isn't it

[AnnieBrooke]

Sorry, I thought you were worried that the baby might be yours, and it sounds from your comment just above that you would like it to be yours.  Here is what the conception calculator gives for the due date of the 25th of June.

First day of last menstrual period:  September 18
Probable date of ovulation:  October 2
Possible dates of conception:  September 28 to October 6
Due date:  June 25 (40 weeks)

Even if there was some room for error in the dating of the pregnancy by the ultrasounds (and if she has had several, there is not much room for error), there is no way to stretch the October 2 assumed conception date back to August 7.  Not your baby, I'm sorry.

[Samking502]

Her baby femur length at her 20 week scan yesterday was 33.1mm I am tall, could that make baby mine? As her and the guy she is now sleeping with are short. She is 5'2 and he is 5'4

[AnnieBrooke]

No, the dates don't make the baby yours, no matter what length the femur is.

[Samking502]

:( thanks so much for your help. I wish it was mine. But your right there is no chance at all of it being mine is there? Is 33.1mm meaning her baby will be tall or does it not matter? I guess the baby would even out? Sorry I'm just gutted although I ahould of known from the start when you replied to my post

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, if you love her that much (and are not just being obsessive over a breakup, which -- believe me -- can happen to the best of us), and if the other guy is not stepping up, have you considered at least trying to be her good friend through all of this?  Many a guy has become a husband by being a warm friend who genuinely likes and appreciates a woman's child.  Even if the kid is not his.  If she doesn't want you, or if you don't want her as a girlfriend if it means raising someone else's child, then don't make this play.  But she has not died and neither have you, improvements in one's position are always possible.

[Samking502]

I just don't think I can if the baby is not mine.  It would cause me to much heartbreak. And there's just not a chance at all of it being mine is there? Do you think I should back down and get on with my life now??

[Samking502]

??

[AnnieBrooke]

Re-read the whole thread, there is no chance this baby is yours if it is due June 25 and you had sex on August 7.