Opinion needed

[Michelle1990xo]

Was with My ex Feb 23rd and 25th then with a friend March 5th and 10th and 12th. First scan was at 17 weeks then one at 21 giving me Nov. 27th due date then Nov. 29th with second scan. They stuck with the 1st scan with a due date of Nov 27th I had the baby early morning of the Dec. 1st. Baby was small at 6 lbs and 1.7 ounces. Do you think my ex could be the dad or my friend?

[AnnieBrooke]

The main thing to know about DNA tests is that some labs measure far fewer genetic markers in the sample than other labs do.  You want to go to a good lab, and if the test is later going to be asked to stand up when going for child support, you want it to be admissible.  Talk to the court clerk in the court where paternity cases are heard, and get the name of local labs and any comments.

[Michelle1990xo]

It says it can be used in legal cases so wouldn't it be reliable

[AnnieBrooke]

Call your local family court and ask.  Home tests are unreliable partly because the swabs can be swapped by unscrupulous people trying to change the results.  Most courts don't accept them for that reason.

[AnnieBrooke]

If the family court in your area of jurisdiction doesn't accept home DNA tests for purposes of determining paternity, get the name and address from the clerk there of a local lab that handles the samples with the proper level of security such that the court would accept the results.

[AnnieBrooke]

The advertising from a DNA lab saying their stuff can be used in court cases does not mean the courts where paternity is determined in the place where you live have decided to accept such evidence.  Most judges would throw it out.

[Michelle1990xo]

I ordered identigene do you know if that is a  reliable test?

[AnnieBrooke]

The courts won't accept home tests for purposes of determining paternity.  This is because they can be unreliable.

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like the friend, not the ex.

[Michelle1990xo]

Thanks for the answer, why do you think that? Was kind of hoping it would be my ex but the friend would be a good father too

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, wishful thinking won't make your ex into the dad, and it's easy enough to get a DNA test with both guys, which you should do anyway.  

Of the earlier guy and the later guy, it sounds like the later guy, because the ultrasound due dates and the birth date don't point back as far as February 25.  While there is a (slim) chance that, if you had had an ultrasound in your 7th week, the due date given to you then might have suggested a date possibly barely within the range of margin for error to push things back to when you had sex February 25 (with time added for the long life of sperm in a woman's body), the baby's birth date does not suggest anything like that.  And if the baby was small, it doesn't suggest he was overdue, either.

Contact the family courts in your area of jurisdiction, get a list of labs certified by the courts to do paternity testing, and go there and test with both guys.  Home tests won't do, the courts won't accept them, and it's too easy to get wrong results.  Everyone in this situation (you, the baby, and the guys) deserves to know with certainty who is the dad.