When did I get pregnant and who could be the dad??

[Mummyto2gnb]

I’m not here to be judged I just really need some help as I’m going crazy. I had my LMP on the 22nd November which lasted for 4 days, I was seeing someone and had unprotected sex on the 1st and 2nd December, on the 8th and 9th I had unprotected sex with my ex who I’m very much in love with and we are now back together. I ovulated between the 7th and the 10th and now I’m 18 weeks pregnant, my due date is the 6th September which means I would have conceived my baby on the 14th I was so sure my baby was my ex’s but the more I read about implantation and conception I start to worry. Please can anyone help me???

[AnnieBrooke]

a) Your ultrasound suggests conception on the 14th. It sounds like it was early enough in your pregnancy to be reliable, and not influenced by when your last period was.

b) You are "worried that everything that is going so perfect will end up going wrong." You are going to have a baby, you are the lucky one no matter who the dad is. Go read the Infertility community if you do not believe me. There are thousands of women who would trade places with you in a nano and they would not give a darn who the father is.

[Mummyto2gnb]

YES I know I’m not saying I’m not lucky and there’s absolutly no need for that comment Iv wanted this since my first born was 2 and trust me Iv waited a very long time for this moment 7 years infact I didn’t mean to come across as I’m not thankful for this amazing little life growing inside off me I just wanted a little bit off advice.

[AnnieBrooke]

Just don't say (not even in your own mind) "end up going wrong." There really is no "going wrong" possible here. You aren't having to hide anything from your guy (a lot of women write in totally freaked because of the strain of trying to hide an infidelity) and your dates suggest he is the dad. But even if your imaginings came true and the guy you don't want to be the dad were the dad, you are still the lucky one. Take that "going wrong" imagery off your mental plate, it's overly negative to the situation.

[Mummyto2gnb]

I really didn’t mean to cause any offfence by my comment I really didn’t mean for it to come across like that I honestly know how lucky I am. I just ment I didn’t want our little family unit to have a strain i completely understand I’m sorry if I caused upset. Xx

[AnnieBrooke]

I took no offense at all!  I reacted that way because you were causing offense to your own heart, not to me. Saying "(moan) everything might go wrong" when you have no evidence even of a problem is overly catastrophic, and dramatics do no service to yourself, the baby, or to the situation. If you can't help but to keep "what if"-ing the situation, you could do an at-home DNA test with Mr. Wrong when the baby comes, but then just forget the whole question forever.

[Mummyto2gnb]

I KNow what ever the outcome this beautiful baby boy will be very much loved. There was something else I just wanted to ask if you don’t mind... giving my due date says my LMP would have been the 30th November but I said at first it was the 22nd?? X

[Mummyto2gnb]

Sorry that doesn’t make sense I ment ‘as I said my last period was the 22nd but given my due date would make my period the 30th’ does that matter? Will that make a difference xx

[AnnieBrooke]

Let me refer you to this post:

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/DNA---Paternity/Someone-please-help-me-Im-desprate-/show/3019473

It's yours, and seems to focus the most on whether you having a period that does not line up with the evidence from an ultrasound scan overrules the ultrasound evidence. If this one does not answer what you are wondering, write back.

[Mummyto2gnb]

Yes this was all I needed, thank you so much for all your help xx

[Mummyto2gnb]

Just before I leave can we just clear it up that you would assume my boyfriend is the Dad?? I know you can’t tell me 100% but would you suggest it’s more likely? Xx

[AnnieBrooke]

You said "I couldn’t have ovulated anytime after the tenth as I never slept with anyone after the 9th." You are worried on the basis that sperm from the first guy could have lasted from the 2nd to the 7th or 8th, but are saying sperm from the second guy on the 8th or 9th could not have lasted past the 10th? How do you figure that? Either all sperm lasts a while or none does.

[Mummyto2gnb]

I’m just such a worrier and my close friend s and family are telling me I’m being silly And I probley am I just can’t get the niggly feeling out the back off my head. I guess I’m being silly I just can’t help worrying everything that’s going so perfect will end up going wrong. Thank you tho xxx

[AnnieBrooke]

In other words,  did a medical person come up with the due date of September 6, or did the medical person just tell you a number of weeks and you worked out the September 6 part yourself?

[Mummyto2gnb]

I got given my due date when I had my scan by the midwife, I’m aware sperm can live for upto five days that’s why I’m still worrying if I did ovulate on the 7th or 8th xx

[AnnieBrooke]

Just to clarify, it sounds like you are saying that you were given a due date of September 6 by the doctor from the measurements of the baby in your first ultrasound. Is that right? In other words, the doctor didn't just give you a "weeks" count and you did the figuring, but the doctor gave you the due date? And he or she did it from the first ultrasound?

[Mummyto2gnb]

I couldn’t have ovulated anytime after the tenth as I never slept with anyone after the 9th xx

[AnnieBrooke]

I assume from this comment that you are unaware that sperm can live 4-6 days in your reproductive tract. I don't think your ultrasound is saying you conceived as early as the 10th, it is saying you conceived around the 14th.

[Mummyto2gnb]

Mostly online looking at ovulation calculators, and I asked the Sonographer at my scans and she said more than likely I ovulated after the 7th. My boyfriend is very very fertile this will be his fifth baby xx

[AnnieBrooke]

If your first ultrasound was at 9 weeks, and from the measurements of the embryo they said you were due on September 6, and then again at 12 weeks they confirmed that you are due on September 6, that suggests you conceived later than the estimate of between the 7th and 10th that you mentioned in your post.  Where did you get that time frame for ovulation?

[Mummyto2gnb]

I had a internal scan and I was 9 weeks then had my 12 week scan on the 22nd Feb and I was bang on 12 weeks

[AnnieBrooke]

How did you get your due date, and when?

[AnnieBrooke]

In other words, did a doctor look at an ultrasound and tell you the due date from it, and how early in the pregnancy did that happen (if that is how you got the due date)?

[Mummyto2gnb]

I had a internal scan and I was 9 weeks then had my 12 week scan on the 22nd Feb and I was bang on 12 weeks

[Mummyto2gnb]

Some online calculators say I would have conceived on the 6th that’s what’s making me worry just incase you didn’t understand why I thort it could be the others mans.