up and coming single mom in need of advice

[nyayes]

So this is a very serious matter I am 12 weeks 3 days pregnant said by ultrasound today , and there are two potential fathers my ex whom I was having intercourse with the last week of may thru June 3rd unprotected and prior but on June 4th I took a morning after pill out of anger. We broke up, but on June 7th early 3 am I had drunk sex with a friend unprotected he used the pull out method which I know was irresponsible.. Nevertheless I took a home pregnancy test on june 16th and was positive my period wasn't due till June 19 or 20th so I found this strange, went to a clinic on June 18th to confirm.. Here's the issue I love my ex and I made a huge mistake sleeping with someone else.. What's your opinion on who the father is... Do you think invasive testing is safe enough to do to check DNA while pregnant.. ACCU metric and DDC.. I'm scared to do invasive because it causes miscarriages but were not sure if the blood testing is accurate due to research.. Any feed back is welcome to help me figure this out..on which test to take If anyone has info on either invasive or blood.. Please help

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, your first story told of your 12th week ultrasound, and now you are mentioning details like an emergency ultrasound (at the ER?) and saying that the ultrasound "at 7 weeks was still saying everything the same."  The same as what, did you have an earlier ultrasound than 7 weeks?

[nyayes]

yes 7 weeks was my emergency ultrasound at a triage

[AnnieBrooke]

You said you had an ultrasound at 7 weeks?  I looked for it and didn't see you saying that.  So, you had an ultrasound at 7 weeks and it gave you the due date of February 23 based on the baby's measurements?

[nyayes]

I said had ultrasound at 7 weeks was still saying everything the same

[AnnieBrooke]

If that came from your 12th-week ultrasound, it will not give you enough exactness to rule out June 7.  Was that your earliest ultrasound?

[nyayes]

Feb 23rd is estimated Due date

[AnnieBrooke]

What estimated due date did they give you when you had your ultrasound (that said you were 12 weeks 3 days), was it February 23rd?  If so, the estimate would be that you got pregnant on June 2.  But unfortunately, getting your dates via a 12th-week ultrasound is not going to give you enough precision to rule out June 7.  You did not happen to have an ultrasound in your sixth or seventh week?

If you want to get a DNA test before the baby is born, I don't think you *can* do an invasive test (you are thinking I assume of amniocentesis or chorionic villii sampling?) just to determine who the dad is.  If such tests are done, it is because they are called for by medical necessity (and though you might not agree, finding out paternity is not considered medically necessary).  If you went to the doctor and asked for one of those tests, the doctor would almost certainly tell you that the risk to the baby is too high for use just to determine paternity.

Regarding doing a prenatal blood test to determine who the dad is, you can trust the accuracy of Ravgen or DDC.  I would not go with any lab that has a bad reputation for accuracy, so do your research.  The cost is very high for the good labs, that is your call.