Depression has caused me having low sex drive.

[robson771]

I am a 19 year old male who has been going through a depression for the last month. The first time I suffered from a depression was a year ago, and post to that first time, I have suffered a couple times more. It has been getting worse, normally it would only last like two weeks for that most. When I fisrt suffered depression it was because It was my first year in college, and being a foreing student made me feel out of place and alone. When I get depressed I tend not to have much interest in girls sexually, and this has happened a couple times. And now I sometimes find men slighlty attractive, not in a sexually desire or anything. IN the past, I have been with alot of girls in sexual encounters and I enjoyed all of the times. Now I seem to be picky with girls sometimes but I still think that girls are attractive. Just for the record, I think you should learn about my relationships. I would always have a relationship with someone but I was cheated on my last one. I havent had sex in more that a year, and I would always be constantly be thinking about sex.  I am also a very Metro guy, i always like to  look good. Also I would masturbate very constantly. Being depressed, and not having a girl have made me feel the loss of my man hood, and I have started to have questions about my sexual orientation. I have never had an sexual desire of men, but not having a girl and the fact that I enjoy being with my male friends alot has made me feel "gay". When I have this thought, I start to get more depressed and suffer from panic attacks. I want to be happy again, and I want to be sure that I am not gay.

[shannonf_bc]

That just sounds like depression to me.... I went through a few years of having absolutely no sex drive though I am a women.... it`s okay.  It`s not a reflection upon your manhood it is just a symptom.... I would suggest going in too see your MD.... I know it`s emabarrasing to discuss these things in person, I almost died when I finally went to my doctor for help...... But your doctor will not be judgemental he will see it for what it is a symptom and nothing else.....

I felt horrible about myself, I kept thinking whats wrong with me..... am i not in love with my spouse...... am I frigid.... am I lesbian.... I feel so much better about myself in that regard now.... but it did take a while to get better in the mood dept so to speak...... so hang in there and don;t worry it`s a symptom not a reflection of who you are.

[MysticKatDaddy]

Depression can do that to you. Just because you have performance issues that doesn't mean you're gay. You're enjoying hanging out with your friends because you can be yourself and not put on a front like you would have to with a girl. There's nothing wrong with liking hanging around with your buddies.People usually turn to their friends when they go through hard times. You should find a good psychologist and he can determine whether you need talk therapy, medicine, or both. Concentrate on fixing your depression and becoming the person you want to be. Being a man is more about being a good person and having courage than how many girls you sleep with. I can relate with the fact that you constantly think about sex. I think that is part of the depression also is that certain thoughts can get stuck in your head. I know it is a symptom of OCD. By the way, some depression medications can improve your sexual ability such as wellbutrin.  Be sure you talk to your psychiatrist about this concearn if your psychologist determines that you should seek medicine as an answer.