Also I'd like to add that if people say nice things about me it makes me feel great for a short time, but if I hear anything negative it hurts my feelings I think about it for ages, sometimes I think I seek out negative things that aren't even there
hi Jimmy, I am no doctor and I think you will get many comments to your questions soon.
I think you do have many of the characteristics of depression and should seek a doctors opinion and referral to a therapist or psychiatrist.
Notably your feelings of
-being unsociable
-negative thoughts
-motivation
-inferiority
-inability to hold or find relationships
-loneliness
Are you also disinterested in activities that you once found enjoyable??
As far as hurt feelings by negative remarks or happy feelings when you hear nice remarks I think all that is pretty normal for anyone.
I nor anyone on this forum can diagnosis you only a doctor can do that, but you have come to the right place for different views...
good luck young man
Thanks so much for your response.
No I can't say that I am now disinterested in activities that I once found enjoyable, or atleast I can't think of any examples where this is the case.
To be honest I'm not even sure what I would say to the doctor. At times I truely believe I am suffereing from depression, but I've been thinking about it so much recently I'm beging to think I'm just using it as a reason for the way I feel.
Is it also right that anxiety is closley linked? I have fairly recentley started to feel anxious when I go to busy places, I get irritableand easily annoyed when for example my local bar or gym is busy.
Many Thanks again for your response
Jimmy
I totally agree with opus. We all hear negative things said to or about us, and it is hurtful. Unfortunately sometimes we dwell more on these remarks than all the good ones. You sound like a nice, sensible young man, and trust me what is on the inside is far more important than looks, but it sounds like you have the whole package! It sounds like you may have some anxiety and the beginning of depression, but speaking to a psychiatrist will help you figure out what is going on. Don't worry about what to say to the doctor, he will ask you questions, and usually once you start talking about things, it becomes very easy. You're young, you should be enjoying life. Seek professional help so you can get your life back. Take care....
Yes for sure anxiety is closely linked to depression!!...and irritability too...to get anxious especially in busy places can be an anxiety attack and too quite common..
When its a 'change' from the way you normally feel..than there is something going on.
sounds to me like you are dwelling on the 'feeling' of depression or the feelings of just plain old sadness and thats not the way anyone should feel and you are putting on a happy face for the people you know, perhaps like you say, you feel very different inside.
how long has this been going on Jimmy?
there is nothing to be ashamed of you know...doctors don't judge you and nor should your family or friends, just tell him how you are feeling like you did on here...if your depression is due to a chemical inbalance than medications can help you.
There is a better way to feel.