Anger effecting everyday life

[ncbear]

you ever feel so angry with life? anyone happier then you makes you really angry or if someone succeds at something there is a burning desire to see them fail. happy people make me angry, dumb people make me angry and  some of my so called friends make me very angry. i feel like a ticking timebomb i have never succeded in anything i wanted and all this failure has made me bitter. is this depression or has failure brought me onto other problems. I hold every failure in every ***** up i want to be respected more its bad how much i want the respect iv started changing my life to earn it. u ever see me myself and irene i feel like jim carrey. Some failures iv encounterd are moms attempted suicide, keeping things nice[when ur in a idc mood its hard to care about your things} a year and a half of wasted college,contantly getting played etc..........................

[beachgirl248]

Hi NCbear,
I could relate to alot of what you are saying. I am finding my anger is pretty much consuming my life these days. Here is what I have been through in the past couple of years, 1 divoce, 1 losing house and most of what I own, 1 losing man I became involved with since divorce. He was just using me and everything just keeps getting better for him, 1 losing a job after 2 years and working 50-55 hours a week at this job and most weekends and having no life outside of work, I am now on my 6th month of unemployment with no end in sight, I am in the process of filing bankruptcy as unemployment is 1/3 of what I made, I have to live with my sister who is an alchoholic and her daughter, meanwhile most people I know still have jobs, still have a house, their kids seem to do great, meanwhile my life continues to disentegrate before my very eyes regardless of what I do.  I am 50 years old and now am not very attractive to men anymore. Yeah I sure do know what it is like to be angry. I get so angry sometimes, I just start crying uncontrollaby. I can relate

[teko]

I have found that the meds are great for dulling the anger and anxiety as well as depression but therepy to deal with our issues is imperative. I found that I was angry all the time and then my hubby said, thats it! no more! Get help or get out! I am not your whipping boy any more!  Thats what it took for me. I realized that me being sick was one thing, but taking it out on everyone who cared about me was unforgiveable. After he said that tho, I was on my way to get help. Now, I have noticed that when I am around people who are negative, I want THEM gone!  And to think, that was me a while back. Wow! Anyway, there is help out there, go for it.

[whodunnit]

Hello,

Yes, I loved that movie. Jim fighting himself after he got off the train was probably the most brilliant scenes I've seen. I used to hate him but that was outstanding.

Yes I know anger, I actually call it rage as that's how it feels. It comes in a rush and can explode for very little reason, as others see it. For me it is always justified and I react to things because I think they are "wrong". Unfair, nasty, mean things others do. That's what gets me going.

I have to stay home mostly as I don't trust being with the rest of society. They will always find a way to anger me. Driving, walking, whatever, they are always doing the wrong thing as I see it.

Of course I am always right too, how could I ever be in the wrong, I know best don't I? I certainly feel that is the case but then again I've been depressed for longer than you've been alive and don't know what is normal anymore.

I have searched, asked, read, discussed and all the rest as much as I can but you know what? No one can tell me how to deal with my anger. No one. That includes my psychiatrist of 9 years. When I describe a situation that angered me he often says "Yes, that makes me angry too". So I ask how to deal with it and he can't answer.

What I do know is when my depression lightens or abates my anger does also. When I am feeling good, which does and has happened often over all these years, the things that upset me are trivial non events. Water off a duck's back.

So I am telling you the way to deal with your anger is to deal with your depression. See a doc, get a diagnosis, get treatment. I'd suggest talk therapy first, counsellor stuff rather than meds but they may be deemed best after a while too. I do both and have done for a long time.

Follow? Focus on your mental state, find out if you are depressed and deal with that.

Good luck, I only wish I could say something easy but I can't, it's a hard road we walk with such anger isn't it?

[LeftCoastChick]

It sounds like you need some good therapy, the angry is making it even worse for you. As well, the root of anger is depression. The sooner you seek out a psychiatrist, the sooner you'll feel better.