Yes i would say you had a rough time, and i can see how that it would bother you. have you talked with a therapist or a group where people share their problems, you really need to see a Dr if you are that depressed, but i really do not believe that this is all caused by chilbirth, i do know that you are thinking about it constantly, but all new mothers go through a depression, but they do get over this do you work, you need to keep your mind and body active it helps depression, i hope that i do not offend you, but you have a nice family, and you have a problem, in a group after a time then they decide they are going to take their life back and let the past go, so they find someplace a chair a drawer and they each if they are ready go and say i have greived and i am now ready to let the past go and live for tomorrow, and i am leaving these problems here in the past and am moving forward I know that you are depressed, but you keep these thoughts in your mind, and you are leting the demons so to speak rule your life, it is time to either take your life back and be in control instead of letting them rule you a good idea is to type this post just like you posted here and take it to the hospital administrator and hand it to her and say i have suffered enough and am leaving the past here and moving forward, but i do hope you can change things here so that others can have their babies without going through all of this lots of luck jo remember if you cant do this go to the dr ot therapist
That was a very rough experience. I have had four children in different countires and never heard of women all giving birth in one room together. Childbirth was a very positive natural experience for me.
You probably need counselling after that, it is more common to have postnatal depression after a trauma or an emergency cesarian. So you may need treatment for depression.
Hello,
Ok, well obviously I've not been through such an experience as I am male. But I do know how easy depression is to get after child birth.
I'd say go to the doctors, they could prescribe possible anti depressants or something just clear your mind. They will also get you a good,reccomended psycologist/counsellor. I'd say go asap.
Now there is a little trick to stressful situations, that when you know you're about to explode with rage or sorrow. I call it the repress trick, you think of a simple but serious word. Such as "repress", you say it in your mind calmly, and serious, and then concentrate on your breathing and heart rate.
If you feel you're just about to stress out, do the repress trick, walk away from the situation, and continue with a calm hobby, watch TV. But make sure it's something simple, as we want to push away the adrenaline (fight or flight hormone).
Another thing that sometimes is reccomended, is to excersize. As this releases endorphines, which is the hormone that makes us happy. I would say, if you're feeling down, or frustrated, go out for a walk/jog/cycle, or something on those lines.
Thanks, and good luck.
- John -