I just got married a few weeks ago and now I'm feeling depressed

[jms1984]

I just got married a few weeks ago to a wonderful man. We planned our special day for six months and it went beautifully. We honeymooned for a week. Didn't really rest as we had many activities planned during that week. We have been back from the honey moon a few weeks and I feel that it is a struggle for me to even get up out of the bed in the mornings. By the time I wake up, my husband is already gone and has been gone to work for hours. I have never been a morning person but this is a little ridiculous! I have rested and slept a good bit on our brand new very nice mattress. He on the other hand, hasn't rested or slept near as much as me and has been working non stop since we returned but for some reason I'm the one with no ambition. I have a great job that is very flexible but I can't even motivate myself to do work for them. Prior to our wedding day we were renovating our future home and organizing some things and we still have much to do. I love to do these things, but once again, I cannot motivate myself to accomplish anything! What's more is that even throughout my wedding day and honeymoon and a week before I've had a nagging cough for over a month now. I cannot seem to get rid of it. I don't know if with the stress of the wedding planning my body's immune system was weakened and I caught a bug of some sort. But, to continue for over a month? I'm to the point now where I want to know what's wrong with me? Am I simply fighting a cold or is it depression or something else? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[therese83]

I'd say anti climax and exhaustion.  Dont be too hard on yourself.  Also it is a big adjustment as well in every way.

[mammo]

I think it has all caught up with you, as you sound like you're happy with everything.  It can be a bit of a let down after all the excitement of planning a wedding and the honeymoon, etc.  I would see your doctor first thing to find out why your cough is lingering, and go from there.  You may just be overly-tired, but you need to find out.  Congratulations and keep us posted on how you're doing!

[Paxiled]

Time to see a therapist.  My sister-in-law had this problem only it was before the wedding.  Marriage is a huge commitment and a huge unknown, and you're probably anxious about it and unsure if you made the right choice.  I think you just need to talk it out.