That's the heart of addiction, when something is used to avoid or soothe emotions. Is therapy possible?
What you haven't told us is what you've done to try and treat the depression and what you've tried to treat the back pain. Lower back pain is pretty common in humans, but it usually goes away. Sometimes it needs treatment, but often that treatment can be just physical therapy for awhile and changing up what activities you do. It seldom means you have to totally give up all forms of exercise. So tell us what you've tried so far to break out of your illness, as you say it's gone on for years now. Maybe someone can then offer something you haven't tried that might have helped them. I'd also ask if you're on any medications -- some of them have been associated with compulsive behaviors like spending and gambling, for example.
Hello, Welcome to Med Help! I'm sorry you are going through this. That's really hard. Spending money can indeed act like a drug as it masks some emotions often or we get a sense of euphoria when we are 'buying' and then come down after. Emotional spending IS like emotional eating. And you also describe an eating disorder which as you know can be really dangerous t your health. The reason why I think you are so smart to take this so seriously is that you SEE the impact your actions have on your life, all negative and yet you can not make yourself stop. I think eating and spending are two of the harder addictions because you always have to eat, you always have to buy things. It's harder to go cold turkey. I would say that getting a journal may help. Look for triggers. You already have identified boredom and being upset. But journal when you get the urge or shop and what proceeded it. What could you change up? How can you stop the pattern? Get a plan in place that when you feel A, you do B and B has nothing to do with shopping or eating. You would really benefit from a clinical psychologist that specializes in anxiety disorders. And I think a 12 step program would help you too.
I'm going to send you a friend invite. I hope you stick around so I can get to know you and others can to to help support you. hugs