Pain & Rage

[DWhite76]

I am hurting I just get so down and then the people that I love try to help.  When they do the slightest thing wrong I get so angry and I cant let it go away and I just gnaw at that simplest little things for awhile and eats at me.

How can I learn to let things go. And away to destress myself? Maybe with those I can then start to work with my self doubt.

[DavidinLexington]

See a psychiatrist.

[brice1967]

Hey man, I get where you're coming from.  I've been there and done that.  I'll throw a couple of things out here for you and hope they help.  Feeling this way stinks and it isn't a good way to live.

First off, what worked for me was seeing a therapist to find out what it was that was causing me to feel this way.  I am a firm believer in the fact that you have to get to the root of the problem in order to work through the disorder.  For me, I had a $hitty relationship with my dad.  I was never good enough.  That affected me in almost every facet of my life.  Even thought I knew I was good enough, I had to learn to live to my standards, not his.  The guy was unreasonable.  When I figured that out, things got easier.

Exercise....  I got into weight training.  (Just getting back in.  Was lifting too hard and ruining my joints.)  After a therapy session, I would go blow out in the weight room.

Get outside.  Either alone or with that special someone.  Go to a favorite spot and just look and listen.  Take all of it in.  The sun, the wind, the rain, the birds, the animals, the sounds.... listen to all of it and become aware of how your body feels this stuff.

Writing.  This place is a great place to vent.  You can do it anonymously and just unload the day, right here on your journal or on this board.  Just getting the crap off your chest does wonders, and finding out that other people feel the same way sometimes can be a big relief.

Anti anxiety or anti depressants...  Nobody really wants to take them.  And for a guy like me, I thought it meant that I was nuts and I didn't want to deal with that....  I'm real glad I take that pill, every day.  It makes the days events, even the crappy ones, far more tolerable.

Also, try to wrap your head around the idea that things don't necessarily "happen to us".  $hit happens, and its how we react to this $hit that determines what kind of a day we are going to have.  Each event is singular, so we can't lump them all together.  Know that we can only control us, not the people of things around us.

Take the douche' that cut you off in traffic.  Everyone hates that.  You can choose to react and get all worked up.  At the end of it, whatever the outcome, that guy is still a douche' and you can't change it.  It happened, its all over and there is no sense in dragging it out.  It's over, so try letting it go.  (Sooner or later, the douche will either get in a wreck and total his car.  He isn't going to be smart enough to know that it is his douche' bag driving that got him in the wreck, and you and I can't make him realize it.  He either will or will not come to that conclusion on his own... nonetheless, your life and mine goes on and this *** hat isn't and doesn't deserve the right to screw our day up.

Try some of that stuff... Don't be afraid to go talk to your doctor too.  In fact, there is not a better place to start looking for help.

Good luck.