IVE BEEN TOLD BY FAMILY I HAVE A PERSECUTION COMPLEX

[susea]

I worked in Mental Health for many years,I class myself as an intelligent human being,stopped work,retired.My family never had much to do with me and my children,but they have grown up to be good standing citizens.I come from a family of six,me being the second child,my sister Linda just a yr older than me+it was just us 2sister 4quite a few yrs .My father hated me,told me so+I remember pinching some sweets from a corner shop owned by a Mr Evans.and for yrs dad would call  me a thief,saying your sister never done it,I used to sleep walk on a second floor,everything that went wrong was my fault,but loved my sister she was all I had...We went to live with my nan for a long while as my mum had given birth to my brother.My nan died I was heartbroken for years,yes we went home and the torment started by my parents.My sister+I would sit opposite ends of table,one of us would laugh we'd be warned not to but we were just children,my mum couldnt see Linda laughing,my mum would come+slap me round the face so hard.Just like when I was a little,was shut in my room in my cot for hrs,twisting and twisting my finger into the wall until I mde a hole,my father dangling me over the bannisters as a toddler.My cousin Terry+aunts new of this favourtism,wed go away with them on holiday sometimes together,then seperate.When seperate they would give me a few extra treats because they said your sistr gets them all the time but tell no-one.I was put into a childrens home@ 11 Heath+Reach in Leighton Buzzard,was bullied@school,was abused sexually and mentally in the home.Never knew why I was there.To the last part I had my girls,husband an Alcholic.Moved from Essex to Kent..Prior to that.Had a relation ship with a lovely man who lived in our village,I was 18 ,Asked me to marry him,but felt worthless,constantly being told I was NO GOOD.So let him go,run to london,lived with my sister Linda.Go a good job working for the medical reseach.Back to present day.My family 2brothers,3sisters living in London/Essex  never came to visit us,take me and the girls to family functions,said I lived to far+funny as it sounds they still say the same even though they wanted to move THEIR caravan from Yarmouth to Kent then its not to far to travel for holiday's.But thoughout my life I have helped every one of my family when theyve been in trouble,or needed help+I was penniless.My cousin Terry used to write to me all the time,he dissappeared when my great aunt died,she live with him.I drove to his last address with a friend trying to find him but it he'd left,wrote to his chucrh in Worthing+for obvious reasons they are not allowed to tell me his forwarding address but sent mine2 him,he was so pleased to hear from me,we carried on communicating,then it stopped,I told my family as they knew we were close,I lived with him when I came out of care.They said theyd not heard from him .So yes a little sad but it meant he wanted to be left alone,so I had2 respect that.then found out My eldest sister+another sister had visited /gone away with him recieve Bday+xmas cards from him.My uncle I used to stay with passed away,no one told me,then found out my sister+my dad went to his funeral,ask why neither of U told me+the answer I was given,we did not know whereU lived.It was the yr of my daughters birth,cards were sent to my address.My sister was showing me photos from yrs ago2 presant day from her computor+the only family that are not@any family functions are my daughters,me then later on my grandchildren.Everyone else is there.I try to ask why,I try to talk about it,no one will talk about it they say I live to far.Not to far to put my brothers up on many occasions to help which Im only to pleased to do,not to far when either of my sisters want to got to France to get thier duty frees,which again I do not mind,always tell them I love them,always inviting them down they phone each other up,never call me.I wrote to Essex Social Services,Elaine Brace so I can retreive my records+family not signed,maybe they dont want to know facts about our parents becos theyre ok.Elaine said your father was a great letter writer wasn't he+sometimes+gives me pleasure to let people have their records but this occasion NO. All these things are real+ongoing.Im seeking the truth.If my family are this way towards me+all close to each other then I cant change it+would rather go our seperate ways,they cant see how theyve isolated me,children,grandchildren.They have+still do go to everyone elses function,never come here knowing there welcome.I tried to resolve it+the facts stare them in the face,Was ill in hospital in essex,my sister lives so nr came for 1/2 hr found out shed said not going again,been once..all my family were just a few miles down the road they had just been to my neices wedding ,they'd pass hospital to go home but Ive  PERSECITION COMPLEX.

[alison121]

have i got persecution complex?  my neighbour parks their car on my front, i see it as 'taking the ****'.  they throw their garden rubbish over my fence for a laugh but i see it as 'taking the ****'.  my friend sent me flowers, cost her £1.50 i see it as 'taking the ****', as i gave her alot of money when she was in debt.  or are they really just taking the ******* ****??  my neighbour used to come round to use my pc every night, not to see me, i see that as 'taking the ****'.  my friend invited me to a gig cus she had a spare ticket shed paid for, i see that as 'taking the ****'. why didnt she invite me in the first place.  shes booked a holiday for her and her ex! but said if he didnt go id better have my suitcase ready.  i see tht as 'taking the ****'.  im not her fall back guy!!  another friend doesnt know where i live. ive been here for 20 years!!  she says im her best friend.  i say shes 'taking the ****!'  

so, is it me or is it them??  do they think im some kin d of ****?  or have i got persecution complex??  

[Bubulous]

Sorry, welcome to the forum, I hope you find great advice and compassion on here.

[Bubulous]

Intelligence is nothing without compassion.  I have been able to spend time with some amazing social workers recently and have an opinion of all of them.  The ones who are best at their jobs actually see a therapist.  They have to.  I also have to assume that somewhere in the beginning of their careers they realized something.  All the money, and time spent training in this field meant nothing once they started doing their job.

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