Made him mad for the final time

[notagain5172]

I have been dealing with a lot regarding my 3 teenagers.  They are 10th, 11th and 12th grade.  Getting One thru his senior year prepping for college, the middle one has had trouble with pot and we have finally gotten himover that and my third is a great girl...oh she has teenage drama whcih is always my fault when i cant gether through it.  

My husband of 19 years is a great man,  We have had our troubles.  6 years ago I had an affair and he took me back and we went thru counseling and were doing great for a while.   I jsut made a major boo boo.  I got some credit cards without him knowing and have charged them up..not all the way but close.   I have been really depressed lately with work, home and other stuff and have been trying to put God back in my life.

I have been praying each morning and saying the rosary (i'm catholic) this is what led me to tell my hubby about everything related to the cards.  When I did he was furious with me!  He is so mad now he wont talk to me.   I have told him that I am responsible for them and will get another job to pay them off if I have to.

He wont talk to me or look at me for that matter.  I have not been able to go to work in 2 days becuase I am sick to my stomach.

I may end up just leaving him so he wont have to deal with me...

Am I jumping the gun?  Or just avoiding anymore confrontation?

Confused and depressed

[April2]

Just give him time. Like the above poster said, he has a right to be angry. Show him how serious you are about paying the cards off. Take back to the store whatever you can. Sell what you can. Get a job and start working on paying off the one with the most interest. You may have to swallow some humble pie for awhile and show him how sorry you are. Men need to see actions, though, so start working on this right now.
Sit down with him and talk about it. See if you can work out a budget or whatever to help. Cut up the cards and show him. Ask him to forgive you for deceiving him (because you did deceive him). Tell him you are really sincere with wanting to change. And then do it. He will be watching to see how sincere you are so show him. Ask him to support you while you are trying to change. Tell him you really need his support. But even if he refuses at first, you still go ahead and do it on your own. He will come around as he sees how serious you are.

I suggest reading "Money Makeover" by Dave Ramsey. It can give you some ideas of how to get out of debt. My husband and I read the book and are trying the things suggested. The author was a millionaire, then lost it all and is now a millionaire again. So, he speaks from experience. He's been there. He's also a Christian but doesn't stress that in the book. He just has really good ideas.
I wish you the best. I understand how you feel. We are in deep credit card debt too. It depresses me too because I just want to hurry up and get out of debt. But it's going to take some time.
Keep praying. God will help you as long as you are trying to honor Him. Just realize, it might not be easy but it can be done. Many more people in worse shape than you came through! There are testimonies to that in Dave's book. Many, many people who were in such deep debt there seemed no way out. They did get out and so will you. Then you will feel so much better!
God bless you.
April

[therese83]

Hang in there.  Dont leave him, he will forgive you I hope and you can work it out.  

Leaving him would be really really mean, he is allowed to be mad isnt he?  Just put up with it.

You sound really sorry and that is good hey?  I really think you can sort it out.

Your teenagers BTW are perfectly normal!  I've got 2 and I work with this age.  The years go quickly and they will be flying the nest soon.
I wish you well.