Severe mood swings...going from feeling OK to extreme anger/disgust

[fearfactor]

I have been having extreme mood swings.  I can go from feeling fine, not really happy, but just fine to extreme rage/anger and disgust with life in general.  It gets to the point where I just want to go home and lock myself in, not speak to anyone and just watch TV all day.  I can't concentrate on anything I'm doing at work.  I guess what has pissed me off today is my husband - he is so selfish.  We have been having financial difficulties and he lost his job a couple of weeks ago.  Well, I got my employer to hire him part-time at night so we don't have to put our kids in daycare (he can watch them in the daytime and me at night).  I thought that was a very generous thing for my employer to do.  Well, now my husband is talking about joining some dumb-ass kung fu group 2 nights a week and missing those hours of work and spending $75 a month on it.  Well, he already spends money on a gym membership and supplements for his various workouts, but now he wants to do this, too?  I have to wear raggedy WINTER clothes in the heat because I am still fat from having a baby and we can't even buy me any decent clothes to wear to work and I can't fit my pre-baby clothes yet.  I am just so sick of this.  I am about to tell him to just stay home and do his various little projects, workouts, etc. and I will just be the breadwinner - just don't hinder me!  I will have to get a weekend job but he ******* when I even mention it.  I am so sick of life.

[lnh2000]

I would like to know some thoughts on here. I have been dating this guy for 7 months now. When we first started dating he was sweet, kind-hearted and I loved being around him. I soon found out that he cannot stand any (ANY) hoildays including bdays, christmas, new years, valentines day, halloween. He has an emotional breakdown at the word hoilday even if it is just a noticed holiday (labor day, martin luther king day.. Anything! He can be happy one minute and angry and explosive the next. He is very selfish and thinks of only himself, His family and friends do not talk to him much because he makes everything about him. He is on xanax during the day because he gets so angry and mad at times. He has the worse road rage I have ever seen. He can be riding down the road and if anyone drives anything but how he does he will slam on his breaks and is ready to fight. He is in his 30's shouldn't someone know at that age that there are consequences to his explosive behavior. I think he is depressed with some kind of rage, aggression issue.. He is perscribed depression meds but doesn't want to take them because it makes him tired and sluggish all the time. It is sad when everyone tells him he needs to go take his "happy pill". He has no friends that he can truely depend on because he is the worse to the closest people to him. He hurts people around him and he knows he does. He told me that he has always been like this and it runs in his family. He believe his life and problems are #1 priority above everyone elses. He wants help but whenever anything is suggested he just blows up. I was marreid to a compulsive addicted husband for 6 years that was very emotionally abusive and brainwashed me as a teenage mom when I was 18. I don't think that it is healthy to be with someone so unpredictive with his actions and emotions. I have a 9 and 3 yo daughters and I feel like they are scared if not afraid of him. I want to help him become a better person to learn and control these feelings of outrage.. Please help!!!! Any advice???

[maeberry1966]

I need help I have such bad mood swings and this rage that I just explode it just happens I dont even have time to think. I hurt everyone. I love my family so much I want to just be normal. I have God in my life but I forget sometimes he is on my side and I do bad things I have told my husband I took a bunch of sleeping pills but really didnt Ive told him I was going to kill myself and I have scratched my face stabbed myself with a fork Im out of control and I need help. When this all happens its usually over something so stupid I cant be like this anymore

[heyjude1]

coultd you be going thru memopause???

[heyjude1]

Personally, I think I would look at bailing on that relationship.  If he is this  agressive during the "being on best behavior" stage and treats those close to him even worse....how would he treat you down the road???  The guy obviously is not serious about getting help, except Xanax..a problem on it's on" and uses a cop out that "that's how we are in my  family" it doesn't sound like a good situation to get yourself into.  You can't change people...and you can't save him...cut your loses and get away from it....save yourself.

[wellb]

Your boyfriend must have some kind of negative attachment to all holidays, maybe stemming from something that happened in his past.

Either way, I'd like to mention that there are "anger management" groups out there. Some are free. I saw one posted on the bulletin board at a local hospital,for example.

Problem is, that if your boyfriend is as angry and explosive as you said, it will be hard for him not to take your suggestion to join an "anger management group" personally.
Will your suggestion set him off?
I'm just not sure the level of anger that your BF has, and how serious.

If it were me, I'd be a bit scared.
Explosive people like that scare the pants off of me. They just do ,because I was beat up by a BF once.
.... but it could be that I'm ultra-sensitive to angry people.

As women ,we have to be very careful when dealing with very angry mates because we could end up being the recipient of emotional or bodily harm. That I learned first hand.

lnh2000, it's up to you to detemine how serious your BF's anger really is ,and if you can continue to put up w/ it.

[heyjude1]

Sometimes people hurt themselves, cut themselves, hit themselves, etc. out of frustration as a release.  Sometimes people do these things to themselves because they feel they are bad person and need to punish themselves, sometimes to hurt others or to gain attention and I am sure there are other reasons, but, I agree, you do need to talk with your doctor and follow his advise.  If you could get in to see a p-doc or a therapist you may discover why you have this behavior.  Please don't wait too long.