major depression

[ty6224]

I have been having problems trying to stay focused lately. My wife constantly accuses me of sleeping around when Im at home all the time cleaning up and taking care of the kids. Im working a temporary job and have yet to be hired on full time yet, so my wife is taking care of 80% of the bills and its not fair to her. I work thrid shift so Im constantly tired all the time. It feels like I will never have the energy others have and Im only 27yrs old. And lately Ive been bothered by this site my wife be on with all types of men hitting on her, eventhough she barely ever answer them back she reads them all. Right now I feel like a ticking time bomb waiting to explode and the only thing that keeps putting out my fuse is my kids, they keep me smiling and able to be myself. I cant even be myself around my wife anymore without her getting upset very easy, I try to spend time with her but its like a waste of time. Either she will fall asleep, or she will talk about things she hate all the time, and she is only 25yrs old and she barely ever have sex anymore unless she is in the mood. At this moment I just the know what to really do. So do you think I should go get prescribed for some depression medication or do I have bigger problems.

[deb398]

Hi ty, I definately think that you need to see a doctor, because you do sound like you are very depressed. Saying things like you are a ticking time bomb is a very scary thing to hear from a person, so please go to a hospital if you start feeling like you could hurt yourself or anyone else!!!! I used to work a 3rd shift job so I know that It is a hard thing to do, and I also think that you and your wife need to get some marriage counseling and your wife needs to stay off of those websites! Depression is a hard thing for a person to understand if they have never been depressed and your wife needs to do some research to find out what the symptons are and what it does to a person. I have major depression and have had it for as long as I can remember, so I understand how you are feeling!            Please find a doctor ASAP to find out if you are suffering from depression and remember that your children need their father!!!!  Ty hang in there because depression can be treated and you can live a very good life with this illness!!!!   Deb

[Igby]

I don't like the sound of 'a ticking time bomb waiting to explode'. I don't know whether you mean it in terms of rage or some kind of suicidal ideation, but I think the fact that you're sometimes afraid of yourself losing control indicates that you should approach a psychiatrist and have some kind of therapy. Drugs should never be your first port of call when you suffer from a mood disorder, since there are subtleties involved which are potentially lethal without the oversight of a psychiatrist. For example, manic depressives who are prescribed anti-depressants can experience a mixed state, which is the most dangerous state of mind for someone with bipolarity.

Drugs, when taken without the oversight of a psychiatrist, can sometimes be a band-aid for a bullet wound. The question of 'should I be medicated or am I more ****** up' indicates, to me, that you aren't seeing someone, and you just want something which will take away your rage or your pain. Instead of being medicated immediately, I really recommend that you get yourself an appointment with a psychiatrist and continue seeing them, so that you can talk through your problems and have your doctor appropriately diagnose and treat you. Drugs are the next step after therapy (but you should continue seeing your doctor while on medication), not the first option.

I agree with Venora Moonwind when she says that you should re-evaluate your working conditions. Depression is often intensified by irregular sleeping patterns and stress, as well as substance abuse and other negative stimuli. I would also recommend that you encourage your wife to seek help and, if you can afford it, have some therapy together (as well as on your own). Negative relationships with loved ones are never beneficial.

I wish you all the best, man.

[Venora Moonwind]

marriage conseling and get off 3rd shift.  this would help way more than depression meds try this first then go from there. you are in my prayers Let me know how it goes for you .
Love Venora